Your Motivational Moment #10 – Tony Robbins Saves a marriage in 8 minutes!
sometimes you might need a pick-me-up i’ll push in the right direction some words that help put you back on track this is the learn develop live podcast with your motivational moments good morning welcome to the learner live podcast and this is your motivational moment for the week my name is chris jags how you doing today what’s new this week i have an incredible tony robbins clip from the ruffians medans training channel on youtube and this was actually the first ever tony robbins video that i ever saw and that’s for the end of it wow that was amazing i got it i understood why tony roms is so good at what he does i think the tony robbins name is so well known around the world and they’re clear as a reason why so many people for presidents world-class athletes leading people in business i kind we’ll go through you can change your outfit mindset and often extremely quickly so enough for me here’s tony i’m having a lot of conflict about what i should do what i should have believed and i’m scared to death to go home i don’t want to be in this situation to have to go home and say to my daughter daddy’s not going to be living here anymore i mean my wife had a big fight which we still haven’t resolved i spoke to my daughters on my daughter’s five and a half years old she said oh miss your daddy i said i’ll miss you too darling i really love you and then say can i speak to mummy i said i don’t miss you she goes oh i said you missed me i’ve been really busy i want to be with my wife i love my wife but we don’t have that many things in common we’ve got a lot of different things that we value and that we’re that we’re interested in what’s going to happen when you go there have to make a decision um what’s changed i’m working even harder than i’m doing you know really early mornings to late nights i’ve got outside interest as well which she doesn’t like what are your outside interests i play in a band but you could be there because you could give up the man yeah and she’d like you to do that yeah what instrument do you play guitar tell me what it feels like when you play the guitar look at that what did you just like it’s astonishing yeah it’s astonishing it’s a great word it’s like being a god it’s like being a god yeah and when you go home with your wife how significant do you feel what do you think the chances him giving of the band are no no way no way he’ll give her up before he’ll give up the ban we had a fight about that about a year ago it was a case of you will do something about this or else and we came to a compromise and what was that compromise that i would um only play you know three times a month something like that i think she’s saying here’s something that makes him feel like a god and the maximum you can be godlike is three times a month and here’s what i want from you by the way i love you but you wouldn’t see it that way i’m sure because what she’s saying is you’re not here with your family you’re not here with me you’re not here with your kids you’re not even whatever she has a different perspective fairly but i want you to see his window on the world first do you love your wife yes why’d you pause i’m questioning it the reason he’s questioning it is because he’s not fulfilled there so if i’m not fulfilled how could i love her and she doesn’t want me to be completely fulfilled how can i love her and even if i love her do i i don’t want to believe i love her because then i’m trapped how far off am i well if i asked your wife what’s her name andrea if i asked andrea score neil for me how significant does he make you feel let’s do that i want to switch hats you’re in her body right now and i’m asking you andrea tell me about neil over there how significant does he make you feel 0-10 you know when he leaves never comes home makes the band more important than you are he knows how you hate that rock music and he wants to go play it anyway maybe a three three does he love you yes he does how love do you feel though these days zero to ten by him three three and how certain are you that he’s gonna stay and love you thanks for annoying eight or nine how certain do you feel though in moments about that i think it ain’t you’re thinking as yourself right now how many ladies agree with me raise your hand this is where you’re deluded how much variety does he bring home to you surprise desires playfulness you don’t expect to serve you to light you up zero to ten five five how much you guys grow in together no zero zero how much do you feel like he’s trying to contribute to you from your perspective andrea probably zero so here’s a man who wants to contribute nothing to you on a zero to ten thinks you’re a three in importance on a two or ten thinks you’re a three of love you know give you a five a variety but he’s sticking around at an eight what would you want to do to him neil if you were her change him or get rid of him well you’re thinking like a man where they get rid of him part he is the father of your daughter are you really gonna just get rid of him no idea yes you do is he the source of your security financially yes are you going to get rid of him he’s the father of your daughter and he’s the source of your survival how are you going to get rid of him no no what are you going to do when you feel insignificant and unloved and uncontributed to and not growing with what are you going to do make him change make him change you’re right how are you going to do that what tools do you have in your arsenal make him stay at home more often how are you going to make him stay at home give him an ultimatum give him an ultimatum what’s the ultimate even say it says it’s uh you spend more time at home and you don’t go off playing with the band or or i’ll leave and take your daughter with you oh no she’ll probably say oh you leave and i’ll keep your daughter yeah what’s her nature not when you’re frustrated with her when she’s feels herself not when she’s stressed what’s her nature she’s very creative in her own way you know she’s she’s into art she paints she doesn’t do it often enough because she always says she’s not good enough even though you know the stuff you do is fantastic let’s put it up on the wall you should sell this to a gallery you could you should exhibit oh i’m not good enough i’m not good enough but that’s the female form women do that with each other oh yes you are no i’m not yes you are oh no you’re but no you’re better no one i’m not better you’re better that’s one downsmanship she’s begging for your attention yeah which i gave i don’t know but she wants so much more so do you like that nature than artistic nature does that appeal i love it i love it in fact isn’t that part of your nature if she follows it but she represses it on herself no she’s begging for you to be your man and show her the artist inside she’s begging for that goals in life her goals are too no idea i’ve no idea what her goals are so you can’t leave you have no clue you’ve been too focused on yourself even though you’re a good man until you’ve gone and giving everything you have as a man to fill up those six needs with her at tens you can’t walk away because you haven’t done what’s necessary and you know it that’s why you’re on the fence because if you’d really done everything you would have left because you’re a smart man and you’re a strong man what does it take for her to feel loved what is she really after in this life you fill her up so much that she wants to give to you now and she says honey go to the band go go do it twice a week but you won’t know until you give completely and totally no holds barred that woman needs to be lit up and even if she wasn’t the right woman for you the next 90 days should be the greatest 90 days of her life where never has a man giving her more attention and focus and caring and love and you tell her after those 90 days this is what i need honey can we make this work and you’ll know the truth at that point what do you think fantastic plan but first fill her up like she’s never been filled up then decide give him a hand like i was very low on the list of priorities even though i would never admit but now it’s completely switched around so i just think it’s amazing we have a winner welcome back now maybe you were impressed at how that whole scenario was flipped around taking one person who fought the only thing he could do was leave his marriage and put him in the opposite position what does his wife think what does his wife want from the guy himself and as you heard at the end the married couple they just looked extremely happy so things run me up sometimes with any situation it just takes a different perspective try and look at something from different angles so many people look at what’s in front of them what the situation is and then try and take it on often failing but if you flip it around as possible for most things from the video alone you can see what the results can be now that brings episode to a close and i hope you got some good vibes from the clip just now if you got that problem you can beat it i believe in you also my calendar you can still jump on it at ldlcool.
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