YOU DON’T NEED THEM – Best Motivational Video
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they think I can’t do it they believe I
won’t do it
they said I lack talent they say it’s
impossible they are right it is
impossible for them they do not define
me I define me they do not set the
standards I set my own standards they
cannot impose limits I have no limits
they cannot control how I feel I decide
how I feel I decide how I react I decide
how I respond to every of them every
situation every setback every challenge
it is me versus me I alone decide who I
will become they can judge they can
assume they can point to fate
their judgments are alone their
assumptions are welcome their finger
will point to the destination I’m not
going
I’m only heading in one direction and
that is to the top today
my focus is matter of their opinion but
focuses on what I can do
my focus is on what I will do
they can’t stop me I will stop
they can’t limit me I am limitless they
can’t define me I am undefinable
thank you lady me graviton slang so I
decide what we become and no one else
they will always be a step behind
my past can remind me but it won’t
define me
others can guard me they can walk beside
me but they will not define they will
not limit me they will not stop me or
even slow me my mistakes God they do not
define me
they are blessings not sentences blessed
to learn blessed to grow let’s a better
better who are walls because who I am is
much bigger and who I will be is it my
hate
my judgment is reserved for myself
my life will be defined by my workmen
but my effort my sacrifice by only
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I could find me only simply some keys to
self motivation and all of us have
motivation of some sort i define
motivation as the desire to achieve that
which you believe to be worthwhile and
many people go through life never
getting in touch with their greatness
because of the lack of motivation to
push themselves or because they have not
found something that they believe to be
worthwhile to challenge them I heard a
poem once that said many a flower has
bloomed unceasingly and waste its
sweetness upon the cold desert air this
translated that means simply that many
are talented persons have gone unnoticed
and the world never had a chance to be
exposed to their talent because that
person did not take the time to begin to
express or to demonstrate or to motivate
themselves in the direction to bring
that which they came into the universe
to bring how can you measure your
motivation how can you evaluate where
you are on a scale of one to ten let’s
do this
for ourselves mentally how do you rate
yourself from one to ten your mental
attitude about yourself how you feel
about you how you feel about life how do
you rate yourself on a scale of one to
ten in terms of your physical appearance
in terms of your health do you take care
of yourself are you allowing yourself to
get overweight and out of shape are you
conscious of your health are you
watching the food that you take into
your body do you make a deliberate
effort to exercise you know it was
George Burns he said we cannot help
getting older but we don’t have to get
old and many of us get old before our
time because we don’t take time to take
care of ourselves your environment is a
very good indicator on a scale of 1 to
10 is it what you want it to be do you
find it desirable are you satisfied the
job a career that you’re involved in
someone said that 85% of the American
public unhappy with their jobs are you
spending eight hours a day just doing
time doing something that you don’t find
challenging that does not make you
stretch mentally but does not stimulate
you that does not inspire you something
that you don’t find a sense of
fulfillment in it if you’re doing that
day in and day out it has to affect how
you feel about yourself your level of
motivation your relationships what kind
of impact is that having on your life is
that nourishing or is that a toxic
relationship does it drain you or does
it build you up ask yourself that how
motivated are you to do something about
it your contribution your actions what
are you giving many people will leave
the universe without a trace no one will
know they were here and in fact under
their name we could put under they’re
not used up will anybody know that you
came this way what contribution are you
giving what will you leave what will be
different because you came this way
someone once said that life is our gift
to us that God has given us and how we
live our lives is our gift to God what
kind of gift
are you formulating is this a gift that
you like to take back and do something
else
before you turn it in think about that
what can we do what are some of the keys
that we can begin to use to motivate
ourselves when our batteries were unload
because I don’t care who you are I don’t
care what you do at some time you are
going to get tired at the same time
you’re going to get in a rut seem like
nothing you do works out right and
sometimes it just seems like you just
don’t have the wherewithal or the will
to do anything that sometimes you act
like you’re punch-drunk you’re just
wading through like just doing time day
in and day out looking at
nondiscriminatory television anything
that’s all
looking and oppress feeling powerless
feeling useless and bored what do you do
how do you get yourself out of a rut how
do you when you know you can do more
than what you’ve been doing and you’re
not doing it and you’re discontented
where you are you get angry at yourself
how do you get out of that rut how do
you motivate yourself one of the things
that we must do is that we must be
involved in working on achieving self
mastery you must work on yourself
continuously never be satisfied with
yourself always know that as you invest
the effort and time on you that’s the
greatest ability that human beings have
above animals see a dog can’t be
anything but a dog tree can’t be
anything but a tree human being you’ve
got unlimited potential
you can put effort on you and by
concentrating on you and developing you
you can transform your life wherever you
are right now so you want to work on
yourself you want to read books that
inspire you and motivate you you want to
listen to tapes over and over and over
again and I suggest that you listen to
tapes when you first get up in the
morning you want to control the spirit
of your day when you first wake up in
the morning your mind is operating at
10.5 wave cycles per second that’s when
the subconscious mind is most
impressionable whatever you hear in the
first 20 minutes when you wake up that
will affect the spirit of your day when
you listen to tapes listen with relaxed
belief believing that this can happen
for you and by listening to them listen
to them over and over and over again
and you will get a breakthrough you can
listen to the same tape for months and
all of a sudden you hear something you
never heard before it have a special
meaning for you or read the same book
over again and you find some special
insight you said I can’t believe I
didn’t see that the first time so you
want to be involved in developing
yourself most people won’t do that most
people won’t take that kind of effort
and invest that kind of energy in
themselves because they will fall prey
to that
conversation within oh don’t do that you
don’t have time you’re too busy you’re
too caught up in the rat race most
people won’t do that well they won’t
take time to go to lectures they won’t
take time to go to seminars they won’t
take time to go to classes to improve
themselves and as you continue to work
on yourself you will begin to expand
your vision of yourself you’ll begin to
work towards self mastery and you will
begin to see it reflect itself in all
the dimensions of your life your mental
life your physical life your social life
in your relationships your monetary life
so concentrate on developing yourself
because if you don’t I guarantee you
that you will make a settlement and most
people have and most of us already have
what kind of settlement have you made
with your life you know when we make
settlements out-of-court settlements
you’ve heard them that means that you
decided to take something less than what
you originally wanted to get had you
gone into court and the reason that you
settle outside of court is because you
didn’t believe that you can get it so
you made an out-of-court settlement many
of us are making in life settlement
we’re settling for less than what we
actually deserve we don’t feel good
about it but we make it work at our
minds we’ll come up with some kind of
excuse to make it all right what kind of
settle that have you made with your life
many of us settled for less than what we
want out of relationships because we
don’t have the courage to change them I
had a seminar used to do call are you
living together or dying together many
people are just dying together Gladys
Knight used to have a song that says
neither one of us want to be the first
to say goodbye
the next thing is in order to begin to
find some keys to self motivation to
drive yourself in addition to working on
yourself and as you work on yourself you
feel good about yourself and as you feel
better about yourself you treat yourself
differently develop a health plan so you
can’t feel well and do well if you don’t
have good health you can’t perform if
you don’t have your health your health
is valuable develop a health plan a plan
that you will follow because this is the
only vehicle that you have to carry you
through this experience call life and
you want to take good care of it because
you love you enough you care enough
about you and that’s not easy it is not
easy having a health plan and sticking
to it but you’re worth it doing it again
and again and again I have lost 22
pounds several times seven it’s I always
do it I love potato chips people who
know me know I love M&M peanuts I love
peanut butter and jelly sandwiches I
love my mother’s sweet potato pie I love
this it’s not always on my health plan
but I put it on there sometimes I said
life is too short to go without sweet
potato pie if I go tonight I want you to
slip a surprise the sweet potato pie on
my casket yeah and watch the smile of my
face next thing is as you take care of
yourself the next key is keys to
motivation to self motivation you want
to live life with energy and passion you
want to make a conscious effort to be
lively see in life you either say hello
or goodbye you either on the way or in
the way leave that people alone some
folks just walking around looking saying
how are you doing honey
stay away from these people don’t go
away from them it affects you
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you want to smile you want to be happy
you got a lot to be thankful for but you
watch some of the faces around you every
day
and I tell you some of these faces they
will put you in a depressed state of
mind so you want to avoid these kind of
faces when you see them coming turn your
head next thing is that you want to
monitor your inner conversations the
things that you say to yourself you want
to watch them and in watching them you
want to take charge friend of mine told
me this evening as she did it
excellently she said I didn’t want to
come tonight I was feeling so depressed
and I said I’m going anyhow see that was
the conversation so you really don’t
feel like it
you really don’t need to do it you don’t
really need to read anything forget all
that that’s that in a conversation oh
you don’t need to worry about trying to
go into your own business forget that
you can’t do that
what if you lose everything you’ve got
that in a conversation that stopped you
from doing the things you want to do
less don’t do that
how can you possibly think about being a
motivational speaker you don’t have the
contacts you don’t have the money you
don’t know the right people you’re gonna
get up in your minds gonna go blink
forget all that you remember that time
you got up before some people and you
panic you stood up in your mind set down
don’t you remember
I said yes and then I said shut up so
you’ve got to learn to stand up to
yourself inside yourself and
short-circuit override that conversation
that’s always going on 85% of what that
conversation will tell you is negative
its negative it will tell you you’re
tied when you really are not tired it
will tell you you can’t do it it will
fill you with fear so you’ve got to
watch that conversation and when you
find it going on you’ve got to stand up
to it and say I’m gonna do this anyhow
I’m afraid but I’m afraid not to do it
and I’m not going to let you stop me
the biggest challenge that you will have
in life is you as an old African proverb
that says is there’s no enemy within the
enemy outside can do us no harm the next
thing that is a key to self motivation
is that you’ve got to ask yourself what
do I want out of life what do you want
out of life what do you want out of a
job what do you want out of career what
do you want out of a relationship what
do you want what gives you your life
what how will you know when you got it
what will make you happy you need to
know you need to start asking yourself
some questions what do I really really
truly want you need to be exact about
that don’t be vague oh I just want to be
happy that’s too vague what will make
you happy how will you know when you got
it zero in on it be exact be specific
and as you do that that will stimulate
that super conscious mind or the
reticular activating system of your mind
that will begin to find those things to
identify with it and once you begin to
determine that which you want take the
time to write it down don’t just think
about it write it down that is a
subjective process that engages the
subconscious mind write it down
once you write it down read it three
times a day morning noon and night why
is that important because what it will
do it will cause you to focus it will
cost you to concentrate when that other
conversation is going on telling you
what you cannot do telling you all of
the impossibilities and all of the
obstacles you’re concentrating will
begin to create a larger vision within
yourself and you start looking for and
seeing some new opportunities you start
creating some openings for yourself as
you begin to read that every day every
day day in and day out that will make
you focus that will discipline your
thinking and you’ll get all kind of
creative ideas as I talk to you right
now being involved in this immersion
process you’re going to create some
openings for yourself you’re gonna get
some ideas you’re gonna feel your
adrenalin flowing and you’re gonna think
about something some idea you had you
said I want to go back and I’m gonna
look at that again from a different
vantage point not from the level of the
problem of the obstacles that I
encountered but from a higher vantage
point because what you will begin to see
them to know as I talk to the higher
consciousness within you that you are
powerful that you are a miracle worker
and that inner conversation has
conditioned you to believe that you’re
not and as you begin to discover the
truth of who you are whatever challenge
that you’re facing in life and if you’re
living you’re facing some challenge
you’ll begin to know that you’re
powerful and that you’re America maker
so as you begin to write down exactly
what it is that you want read it every
day the next thing is see yourself there
how will you feel once you get there
what will the experience be like for you
what will be different what kind of
person do you have to become in order to
get there visualize yourself there
living the experience I remember when I
ran for State Representative in Columbus
Ohio and I had a lot of people telling
me and you got to watch not only the
conversation within but the conversation
without
telling me less you can’t possibly win
you can’t do that
and I went down to the legislature and I
saw myself I knew what I wanted I saw
myself in the chair I pointed out the
chair that I wanted I used to go and set
up in the galleries and watch the
legislative process I used to go to the
committee meetings and listen to
legislation being introduced I learn how
to write legislation how to amend
legislation I start thinking like a
legislator got up every day dressing
thinking like that selling myself on it
seeing myself in the legislature mr.
speaker I’m the gentleman from the 29th
House District I like to introduce the
bill I went in the legislature walk run
I had the experience of it and when I
ran and won against overwhelming odds
they were shocked i won the election
even before it was held because I was
living it in my mind you want to see
yourself beyond your circumstances you
got a challenge see yourself beyond your
challenge see yourself with the
challenge already resolved and knowing
that all is well seeing yourself in
control and in charge of your destiny
being healthy and happy the next thing
is it is important in the area of
motivating yourself it’s important to
know why you’re doing it because that
mind will say why bother why go through
all this this is too hard no throw in
the towel it’s not worth it it hasn’t
ever said that to you before here’s how
you can handle that here’s how you
override that write down five reasons
why you deserve it
why do you deserve what you want why you
why do you deserve it what meaning and
value will it bring to your life what’s
so different about you that you deserve
your goal or this goal and when you
write down those five reasons when you
have some down moments then you’re going
to have them when that conversation
start talking to you and it’s going to
talk to you what you will do is you can
pull that out in
eat it and it will build you up it will
be your rod and your staff to comfort
you through some challenging moments
because you’re gonna have some life will
knock you between the eyes it will catch
you on the blindside come out of nowhere
stuff you can’t anticipate that will
knock the wind out of you you want to
give up that’s why it’s important for
you to work on yourself listening to
tapes building yourself up talking to
yourself with power feeling and
conviction building yourself up day in
and day out because it’s coming I
guarantee you
life is just waiting oh he’s doing good
now huh very good I’ve never had an
experience I was pursuing my dream and
that’s why you have to work on yourself
you don’t know what’s going to happen
and I was telling people I had this big
rally I had to do was 5,000 people there
and I said you must work on yourself if
you want a larger vision you’ve got to
empower yourself continuously because
life will catch you on the blindside and
after I finished my speech I got a
rousing standing ovation and I wouldn’t
call the young lady that I was dating at
the time I said hey guess what I said
they’d love me I got a standing ovation
and they were chanting we want the
motivator we want the motivator
I said listen we want to motivate we
want do you hear she said yes
unless I need to talk to you hey wait a
minute you’re talking about to tell I
was ghetto and I’ll be also less I heard
a voice in background hurry up and tell
him who’s that
last time you’ve been gone a lot in
there’s somebody else what they came in
last come on mr. motivator they want you
back out there
wait a minute hold it hold it why don’t
you say I’m sorry that someone hasn’t
heard a voice say hang the phone oh come
on I say what are they gonna say hey hey
motivator come on they want you to catch
your ham chair I say
okay I said when you work it on a larger
vision I say you you got a really work
on yourself good light will catch you
the Blind Side
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I say you better be ready you better
make sure you want it cuz it’ll make you
cry and somebody said the spirit is on
him thank you thank you thank you thank
you
I was talking to tell it’s not blinking
the light they had to come toward me ah
but I say you gotta have a larger vision
you make sure you make sure you work on
yourself I said come on mr. brown – oh
yeah I went back to my hotel room and
loneliness and heartbreak was sitting on
the bed said are you coming in now do
you have your larger vision now how’s
your positive attitude say get on in
here are you still breathing shut up
you want your go no we’ll just go down
light will wear you out you’ll be saying
no I can’t into our you try to read it
can see that through the tears I went
running through the drawers in this
hotel trying to find a Gideon Bible
anything you know I said somebody
anybody help me Yahweh Yahoo anybody boy
that’s why you got to work on yourself
good laughs we’ll send you some curves
you cannot anticipate the next thing is
that whatever you do you want to develop
technical mastery you want to be the
best at what you do you want to master
it see part of self motivation is you’ve
got to find something that gives you a
strong sense of competence will you
become known for that you develop a
reputation of being good at doing that
you set some high personal standards for
yourself you’re not competing with
anybody else you’re just unfolding
yourself to be the best person that you
could be that you want to give the best
quality service that you can give
because that is a statement about who
you are
the other thing that’s the key to self
motivation is recognize the fact that
you’re going to get into some slumps
recognize the fact that
you’re going to encounter a great deal
of failure in life it goes with the
territory but in the face of that you
want to be relentless when you want
something you can don’t expect everybody
to say oh come on it we’ve been oh you
want this oh great we want to give this
to you you’re such a nice person you’re
doing it for your family aren’t you
great
now don’t like this and like that no
many doors will be closed to your face
many loans that you’ll want they say no
you don’t have enough collateral you
don’t have enough credit and most people
will give up but you’ve got to decide
that I’m going to be fearless
I refuse to be tonight and I’m gonna go
all out I’m going to be rid of lick
‘less I don’t care how many nose I
encounter I like something Isaiah Thomas
said when it’s getting ready for a
basketball game he said I’m gonna either
shoot us in or shoot us out but I’m not
going to not do anything and that’s the
way to go
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you can’t make a basket unless you shoot
the ball you can’t hit a homerun unless
you take a swing at it most people won’t
even take a swing well I probably won’t
make it anyhow that’s the conversation
within they probably won’t give it to me
anyhow if you want something you’ve got
to be relentless you’ve got to decide I
deserve this and I’m going to have it
and you go all out to get it that drives
you the next thing is that when you want
something out of life you’ve got to be
willing to go into action don’t wait
around for things to be just right don’t
wait for things to be perfect don’t wait
for the ideal situation it will never be
ideal there will always be a reason well
as soon as the children grow up as soon
as I pay my bills well soon as I get my
divorce soon as I get enough money
together do what you can where you are
with what you have and never be
satisfied a lot of people never take a
chance in life they don’t want to take
any chances they want the situation to
be ideal see that’s not walking by faith
that’s walking by sight if I can see it
I’ll do it no no no glass a lot of
people say if I can see it I believe it
no no if you believe it you can see it
and don’t be despaired because no one
else can see it that’s not unusual that
is ordinary but because you want some
different kind of results in your life
you’ve got to be willing to be
unreasonable if you want unreasonable
results in your life you’ve got to be
willing to be unreasonable part of being
unreasonable you don’t judge according
to appearances part of being
unreasonable you can see it because you
believe it that’s part of being
unreasonable part of being unreasonable
you like Paulo said you must have the
faith to call forth those things that be
not as though they were that’s part of
being unreasonable most people won’t do
that
most people say call me when you get it
together then I’ll support you the other
thing is that what are the keys to stuff
motivation that empowers you is that you
want to find a cause larger than
yourself find something that you can
contribute to find something that you
can make a difference because you can
part of what feeds your larger vision
part of what gives you a reason for
being part of what gives you your life
is being able to give something back so
I can’t afford to give anything you
can’t afford not to give give your time
give your television just to go and lick
envelopes I don’t know exactly what I’m
going to do but I’m going over there
it’s part of my tithing in the universe
once you develop that that special sense
of mission and that’s what you develop
when you’re part of a larger cause than
yourself
it drives you you don’t need an alarm
clock to get up in the morning you have
special power you go places and folk
will like to be around you they will
know there’s something different about
you when you go in there say hey that’s
somebody important I want to know who
you are I just want to be near you that
energy that you have that consciousness
that you will embody
will affect everybody around you the
next thing is is that you want to create
a home court advantage for yourself
you’ve got to be aware of who you have
around you so you want to be selective
have friends that will enable you to
grow I have friends that help me to grow
spiritually these are my spiritual
friends I talk spiritual stuff with them
I have some other friends who are just
intellectual friends they make me grow
intellectually they make me stretch I
have some professional friends I’m a
member of the National Speakers
Association I get together with other
speakers and we learn from each other
and we grow from each other I have other
friends suggest social friends all we do
is just socialize together we look at a
basketball game together or go out
dancing but that’s all we can do we
don’t talk anything serious nothing
spiritual nothing intellectual that’s
not that kind of relationship nothing
heavy up in here
have other friends we walk together
that’s all we can do walk together talk
about if we’re gonna lose weight one day
bye and bye for good all right that’s
all we do nothing else so according to
the relationships that you develop we
grow from people and projects and the
relationships that you develop can
enhance and can enrich your life or they
can drain you I know many talented
people who had a great deal of potential
but because they didn’t surround
themselves with other people that will
inspire them to transcend themselves
they never realize their greatness and
they will end up going to their grave
with all their good stuff still in them
so you want to look at your
relationships the people that you’re
involved with the people that you
communicate with almost often and you
want to ask yourself the question what
am i becoming because of this
relationship desert in farming am i
motivated am i encouraged emma driven to
develop myself am i seeking my own
greatness what kind of person am i
becoming because of this relationship am
i becoming more cynical and negative
about
ask yourself that the next thing is
you’ve got to say yes to your life
you’ve got to say yes yes to my dreams
yes to me yes I can make it yes I can
doesn’t matter how many failures I’ve
made doesn’t matter how many mistakes
I’ve endured doesn’t matter about my
defeats doesn’t matter about what I’ve
done
yes yes I don’t care about the fact I’m
in a hole now doesn’t matter about where
I am yes
the last chapter to my life has not been
written yet if you judge me now you
judge me prematurely
I haven’t exposed all my stuff yet I’m
still in the process of transforming my
life I’m still in the process of
becoming yes I had somebody in my life
at one time told me you’re never making
and I said I was sure and I don’t know
what energized me what motivated me was
something that Frank Sinatra said he
said the best revenge is massive success
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I’ll show you you just watched my smoke
as old folks used to say so say yes
stand up for your dreams stand up for
what you want in your life decide that
your life is so meaningful to you that
you love you and you love life so much
that you’re going to stand up for
something you want I used to have a
thing when I was on the radio stand up
for what you believe in because you can
fall for anything so what I say to you
this evening that you are powerful you
have miracle-working power in your life
right now but you got to work on
yourself you’ve got to develop yourself
you’ve got to talk to yourself day in
and day out selling yourself on you and
on your potentials and you got to know
that that you are worth all of your
effort and that the key to your
motivation as you get a larger vision of
yourself is to know that you have
something to give is to know that you
have a reason for being in the universe
at this point in time I want you to
stand up for your life right now anybody
want to stand up for your life stand up
be a dream
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