Finding the right career is hard. To make it worse, we all have a bad habit of making the search more difficult than it really is. And we’re probably holding ourselves back in ways we don’t suspect.
Some of us simply don’t believe we are capable of finding a job because our parents, teachers, and other adult figures constantly enabled us growing up. How can we feel confident in our abilities if no one let us test them?
Many people are protected by the excuses of others. Learning disabilities, discrimination, and past traumas are always to blame — never the effort of the individual. Our current culture discourages accountability and provides a safety net so no one ever has to feel the discomfort of failure.
If we’re enabled, then we often don’t believe the processes other people use to find employment can work for us. If we don’t believe filling out applications will land us jobs, then why fill out applications at all?
Don’t create a negative, self-fulfilling prophecy by making a half-hearted attempt to find employment, then complaining when the lackluster effort doesn’t work.
It’s easy to remain helpless and to believe we’re the exceptions to the rule. In reality, we probably just need to put more faith in the traditional way of doing things.