Tony Robbins-Great Open Mind Voice Set for Goals-Change(Speech)
in people’s lives there’s only maybe a half dozen seven eight categories that really matter most people you know they major in minor things they focus on stuff that doesn’t matter they know more about this celebrity going in and out of rehab than they do about their own personal development but i look at say if you look at your body without that everything else is out the door you don’t want to be richest man in the graveyard that’s not going to do it if there is energy if there’s vitality of their strength it’s going to show up in your relationship it’s going to show up in your business show up in your life that’s it you got to master you can’t dabble it’s too important emotions are everything i mean you got a ton of money you got everybody loves you and your primary emotions are pissed off and frustrated then your life’s pissed off and frustrated doesn’t matter if you’ve got a billion dollars or a million people loving you your life is not great relationships intimate relationships especially it’s where the most juice in life comes from is where the most pain comes from most people it’s worth mastering instead of dabbling everybody experiences extreme stress at some point in their life i don’t care who we are something happens outside our control and it hits our life and it knocks us on our tail it might be a health stress it could be something with your family it could be economic career it could be something emotional that happens biochemical there’s so many things it could be an environmental situation that nothing to do with you every one of us in our lifetime are experiencing extreme stress and these days because of the economy and the way we respond to it the majority of people are experiencing some form of extreme stress at least according to polls stress doesn’t come from the facts stress comes from the meaning that we give the facts yes those things have happened but the real question is if we fight what’s happened we got a problem we gotta decide what are we gonna do with what’s happened in our life how are we gonna take this how are we gonna mold this how we’re gonna turn our life around because when you come up with a new meaning get a new life so what are we gonna do in this session well in this session we’re gonna take a look at something from a different perspective we’re going to ask you this question what is the single force that controls the quality of your life and spiritually really i think i don’t tell people to believe spiritually but i believe that ultimately whatever you believe you got to live it and it should lead to growing and giving if you’re growing you feel alive if you’re giving you feel ten times more alive and i think if someone can celebrate and give then that spiritual state so to me those are the areas i look at mastering you know business for sure but it’s the areas of life that matter most and most of where we spend our time doesn’t make people feel fulfilled that’s why the average person is not fit and healthy the average person is not in a relationship where they have tremendous passion you know i’m not a dummy i’m not a positive thinker i know the truth the average person is not successful in business the average person is not earning what they want to earn but you know what very few people have those things but a few do a few are happy fulfilled spiritually alive financially strong their business is growing they have passionate love affairs and i’m obsessed with finding the few who do and find out what they do different teaching to everybody you know really looking at what are you going to do with your time and mastering your time instead of having a checklist you cross it all off you can mistake movement for achievement i want to squeeze out of that time what matters that creates value for me and for everyone i care about love what about your career or your business and the mastery of that dabbling most most businesses are dabblers that’s why they don’t make it 96 you know in any 10-year period of time four percent make it that doesn’t mean they’re profitable and it does not mean they’re enjoying themselves all right or they’re getting anybody else to feel good really mastering money so that it’s it’s not a question in your life you can do and be and give and share as much as you want you’re not stressed about it you live in a place of abundance and then if there was one gift our creator has given us or the universe whatever you believe what is it what is the one power that you have right now in this moment that can change everything you have it i have it we all have this one singular individual power that can change anything in our life regardless of what’s happened to us and i know you know the answer the answer is the power of choice the one thing we have in this world is we can’t control the events but we can choose what to focus on we can choose what things mean and we can choose what to do those three choices those three decisions really control our life it’s not so much the conditions of our life that control our destiny as much as the decisions of our life try for a second to think about something think about your life and just think about are there a few decisions if i were to ask you two decisions you’ve made in life you know that if you would have made a different decision you would have a totally different life i mean it may be a life may have been better it may have been worse i don’t know but you would have different life i’m not asking you to to buy into the fact that you should have known the answers i just want you to see the power of a decision so decisions equal destiny it’s not our conditions it’s our decisions so if we want a new life if we if you don’t like the way your career is or your business is change it if you don’t like your body change it you don’t like your relationship change you first because if you change it you’ll bring you to the next one maybe it’s time to change it too but change yourself first if you want to change in your life you have the choice so there is no right or wrong i just want to make you aware in this breakthrough session that everything in our life changes the moment we make a decision and i mean a real decision a decision is when you cut off any other possibility you commit to something with everything you’ve got and you take action but the big decisions start with little decisions like what am i going to focus on because whatever you focus on you’re going to feel everybody has that everyone has different goals and dreams and desires but as i traveled around the world to 100 countries i started going holy i’m seeing the same problems what’s underneath it i began to see that there are these same six human needs that we all have the same needs we all have a need for certainty that we can avoid pain and we can have some pleasure some comfort we all need uncertainty we need variety or we feel dead inside if you’re totally certain you’re bored if you have total variety you’re like freak out and it’s not a balance it’s learning which of these you need more as a person everyone’s developed a different set of values in that area um need the need for significance to feel unique special important they need to feel loved the need to grow and the need to contribute some people value certainty at the top of their list that’s their center of their target i don’t want to do anything else i know it’s going to work i don’t do anything unless it’s the same if you change anything they freak out if certainty is the number one thing on your list everyone has the same needs but if it’s number one i know how your life’s going to be i can predict the direction of your life and therefore the destination to some extent if you’re driven by love first you want certainty too but love is higher you’re going to behave very differently than if you’re driven by significance i have to be the one so i look to see which of those needs are the top two on your list because they control your life the two that most people have 90 of the planet if you said of all these needs which one do you really focus on most day to day everybody wants love what do you focus on and the other one that we see most often is certainly people want to be certain before they can do something you couldn’t have started a business like you had if you were absolutely certain before you started you can never build a business with that you can never build a great relationship because if it’s based on certainty then everybody’s got to stay the same never change which means you’re never going to grow which means you’re going to be miserable so my metrics are i want to find out what’s driving you i want to see is it healthy or unhealthy you can have two people be driven by significance though and do it with a different set of rules that’s the second piece i measured the beliefs or rules of how to fulfill that target we decided to quit because it’s overwhelming we decided to get strong and focused we decided we’re going to turn it around decide to wait and see ultimately your destiny is determined by what you do so for example what do you do if somebody comes to you one day and says you have a tumor again i’ve had that experience i use that as a reference point because a lot of intense experiences in my life but that was one of the more intense ones for sure how many but that was very intense you know first what do you focus on you focus on it’s over do you focus on why me you give it a meaning that says i’m gonna die what do you do just go through traditional therapeutic approach do you put yourself in the hands of someone else do you evaluate this do you get a second or third opinion your destiny is determined by your decisions now if you’re a guy like lance armstrong you’re focused immediately on i gotta find a solution the meaning you come up with is this is the ultimate battle what you decide to do is you’re going to exhaust every possibility now that doesn’t guarantee you’re going to succeed but it’s interesting when you have that kind of a mindset it shifts you and that’s armstrong i mean he was told things like look you got you got tumors here in your brain you got them in your lungs right you got obviously in testicles and you ride a bike for a living that’s pretty tough but he made it to all those pieces now am i saying because he made the right choices i can’t tell you that there’s certainly some grace and everything i think in life there’s three things there’s our ability to choose what we’re focused on or to commit to get a result to put all our intention and focus into something there’s our ability to do the right things to have the right strategy to execute and then there’s some grace there’s what some people call luck some people call grace there’s if you do the right things over and over again with total focus sometimes you know you get good fortune that comes your way and you tend to have more good fortune when you’re totally focused and decisive and you take lots of action than if you kind of just sit around and accept things like that you don’t have a future
