Tony Robbins: Being a Powerful Leader = Being a Powerful Servant
yes one of the things I wanted to ask you like on the first day is you said like to my friend over here you got to lead your people you got to learn enough about the job that you hate and then lead them and I what I wanted to ask you is well being sort of on the front lines of things how do you actually or what are your ideas on leadership and you gave some examples today like for example you sort of come up with the plan and then you ask the questions so that’s one strategy that’s only one part yes I was wondering if you could share maybe a two or three months sure I’ll be happy to my number one belief about leadership is you’re a servant here’s what I mean here’s what I mean specifically the word hero hero that isn’t the archetype of like men and you and I bet my is it true that inside of you you want you really want to be the best you want to create the best share the best do the best is that is that a metaphor for you in your life absolutely yeah me too so I think people in this room tend to have that as their metaphor so all of us at some level man or woman wants to be hero the word hero if latin root means servo servo means servant it actually means slave the hero while either the hero has become the ultimate servant to something larger than themselves people and so forth the person who thinks they’re going to lead by demand or by position can only leave for a short period of time but the person who’s idea serving is my belief is if you can find a way to take any group of people and help them to experience their needs at a richer deeper level than anyone else then together you guys can get anything done anything now it may not work the first time but together you can get to that point because needs are ultimately we’re after we’re not after the vehicle we think we’re after you want a billion dollars then you get it I got plenty of clients and I will tell you it is not the end game and so now if then they go after their second billion or you think it’s getting married and then you get it you find out it’s not the end game there’s certain needs that have to be there and the ultimate needs are growing and giving because you only can feel so good filled up by yourself so my core belief is I got to serve if I serve I can lead because I believe motive does matter if my motive is just to get you to do something for me there’s a certain amount of power that I can get to do that if I strap if I think if I feel and also if it serves a greater good even if I don’t intend it if the bumblebee goes to try to get the nectar it wants it’s selfish goal I believe there’s a higher power of the guys at all and when that bumblebee goes it doesn’t intend to give anything but pollen sticks to its legs as it goes about trying to get what it wants that’s how flowers are created I really believe that everything has a web of connection if your intent is to serve yourself you’re still going to serve something more than yourself and you’re going to get a certain amount of insight if your intent in your motive is to serve something yourself but also something more just your kids then I believe you get a different level of insight and because you’re serving more of what serves life it’s not just me it’s me and my family if you’re trying to serve a community I believe you get a different level of insight treasure of humanity you get a dip level inside I get emotional thinking about this is why I do what I do so when someone stands up it’s not about business it’s not about anything but about serving them so I will use abrasive or creative language I’ll use whatever it takes humor stupid I’ll make fun of myself I’ll challenge I’ll do anything to serve that’s why I’m here I don’t need to do more but I love to see someone free and alive and lit up so when that’s your motive no matter how people perceiving it outside if they’re around you long enough you can’t hide what your real motive is and they’ll see it and they’ll feel it motive does matter if it’s to serve something high it’ll be that that doesn’t mean you don’t get served too and in business you got to be served or I used to do business and I lose money the business everybody else was happy and it was wonderful except I had no business so it’s you know killing the goose that lays the golden eggs so I’ve learned to put that balance in but that gives me power that’s why time disappears for me because I’m not about getting some action done I’m about the outcome question you know we we talked about you know the economy being real rough going forward but you’ve given so much of yourself and I can see it and the passion behind these people about teaching these really important business principles that I’m confident that it’s going to be a lot shorter to come out of this recession thank you so much give a
