TAKE THE TIME TO TRAIN YOUR MIND | Tony Robbins Motivational Speech
we are controlled by what we focus on and what things mean but the problem is most of us have been conditioned and we let the world and the environment train us to think like everybody else and listen you and i both know i’m not i’m not into positive things i’m into the truth i’m into intelligence i’m going to sing it as is but not worse than it is i’m going to see it better than it is so there’s a vision otherwise you’ve got no direction and then i’m into doing what it takes to turn it around see you’ve got to control the meaning if you control the meaning you have an extraordinary life but if you let the media external people then you’ll be a follower and most people you tell me are most americans healthy vital strong healthy are most americans in a passionate relationship for decades where they don’t just hang out they love each other and want to be with each other do most people have a career or a job or a company that they love can’t wait to go to every day you know the answer is most people the answer is no but there’s a few who do and i mentioned a few do versus the men who talk and then finally the third decision is what are you going to do because what you’re going to do is different than if your meaning is they’re dissing me then if you’re meaning if they’re challenging me that their meaning is they’re loving on me it makes sense and so it’s important to learn to find empowering meanings to train yourself to focus on what you have what instead of what’s missing what you can do what you can do this moment what you do in the future those are just a couple samples and if you do that you’re going to be in a state where you’re going to know what to do or you’re going to learn what to do quickly and if you don’t know what to do trust your gut and take some kind of action you go what if it’s the wrong action you’ll find out quicker and you can change again but if you sit on the fence doing nothing it’ll just create frustration or fear anxiety so as you go through your graduation today remember it’s in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped so choose well and as you do choose in a way where you’re kind yourself and kind to others and where you trust that there’s something in you larger than your mind there’s a spirit and soul inside you that can guide you you can ask for that guidance and you can trust in that guidance and that does not mean you’re always going to make the right choice but it does mean that you can learn from everything and in the end life’s not about just being happy right the moment if you’re happy all the time your face hurts you never smiled so much for so much your face hurts we need a balance what we really need is a life of meaning and that’s a life where it’s not just about you it’s a life of service if you can find something or someone that you care so much for you’ll do anything for them then the greatest part of you will come out it could be a mission for your community it could be for the world it could be your family it could be your friends it could be your lover it could be anything it could be in the future maybe your children but if you can find something you care about more than yourself you’re not going to suffer because in the end there’s only two options suffer or grow if you’re suffering you haven’t grown yet and so grow into a new set of beliefs that take you beyond the focus of limitation to what’s truly possible so congratulations this is a beautiful day even though it may be challenging in all kinds of ways remember you know we’re the opponent what’s creates a great hero and you’ve got a great story to write in the life of your life you’ve already written a beautiful story to start with but i really trust and send prayers and faith and love that you have create the most compelling future possible and you build a life that is truly magnificent on your terms lead don’t follow god bless and live with passion if this body is dying and you can make peace with that is it is this you is this who you really are and then opens up the question who are you really are you this body this body every seven years changes you know the cells change every seven years regenerate so literally after seven years you have a totally different body a totally different cellular structure technically you are a different person and so are you just this body are you just your past are you just your memory i you know what am i who am i and so i think this is the question and so for me death the real death is not just the death of this physical body because i believe that what we are is not just this body we are something more than this physical body uh i think the real death is the letting go of the attachment and the identification of this conditioned sense of self that we have learned to be based on our past based on our experiences based on our childhood based on our conditioning based on what our parents told us you’re this kind of person you know this kind of person you know you’ll never make it you’re stupid you’re amazing you’re great you’re you’re not good at math you’re not a not creative person and so we identify with these thought forms and we identify with these belief systems and then we hold tightly onto this sense of you know identification as a sense of me and so really i like to question people and ask you like is who you are who you really are you look at a child a child is in touch with this innocence the child is in touch with his or her aliveness it will dance naked it’s not thinking am i fat what do you think you know it’s just it’s just that’s freedom you know that’s liberation that’s freedom they’re in touch with you know i like to call it the divine you know their essence their soul there’s a free expansiveness that they’re in touch with but what happens you know we’re born into a world where we meet our parents you know our parents they’re just doing the best that they can do based on their past and their conditioning and their childhood and their traumas and just their life and so we’re born into this experience and as children we learn two things the first thing is we learn all sorts of ways often unconsciously out of survival to shut down disconnect not feel not feel the pain of my dad’s an alcoholic not feel the pain of my dad is not around not feel the pain of my mother’s my mother’s crazy or my parents are screaming all the time as children we’re very sensitive to this and so we learn all sorts of ways to shut down our feeling capacity to disconnect and we start suppressing suppressing our feeling and our emotion and our sensitivity just to ultimately function and survive and then we learn all sorts of ways to sort of go into the world me personally i became the preacher’s kid i became the nice guy i became the perfect son i’d the perfect person who couldn’t make any mistakes i became the responsible one which was the over responsible one so we learned to develop all of these roles you know that we we kind of suppress our feelings and our pain and we develop all these roles to ultimately function and survive so we can talk ourselves into a certain shape to avoid pain to get love and validation and approval we contort ourselves into a certain shape and then we identify with the shape that we’ve become thinking this is just who i am and now we’re so identified with this as me but it’s simply a conditioned sense of self and so the more tightly we’re holding on to this way of being because maybe it worked for us when we were five it worked for us when we were eight it worked for us when we were ten but maybe it doesn’t work for us when we’re 22 or 25 or 27 or 30 or whatever the age is you know so often what worked for us when we’re younger doesn’t work for us as we’re older and so i think the degree to which were identified as the sense of self is inhibits our sense of freedom inhibits our sense our ability many people we feel like that we have so much potential you know i think there’s many folks listening and that they feel we feel like god there’s so much i want to give there’s so much i want to love there’s so much i want to do and express but it doesn’t get out because it’s trapped inside of this sort of identification and these patterns of conditioning so for me i think one of the things that keeps us stuck on in a simple level uh are all the ways we lie to ourselves you know all the ways we bullshit ourselves all the ways we don’t tell the truth to ourselves all the ways we rationalize you know uh you know i’m in a relationship and it’s not so bad it’s okay i should be grateful you know i and and the truth is we know it’s not aligned or maybe someone’s working a job that they deeply hate inside where they’re compromising their integrity but they’re they’re afraid of how am i going to survive if i’m really honest what it takes today to live a healthy a long and healthy life um it’s so multifaceted and nutrition is definitely it plays a major a major role in that regard but it’s just one part of the puzzle and so whereas genius food is my first book i consider to be sort of the ultimate nutritional care manual for the human brain having a brain that functions as well as it ought to requires a lot more than just healthy eating today unfortunately i mean i wish it was as easy as eating you know a handful of blueberries and wild salmon and uh you know some nuts here and there but actually you know the modern world is sort of like the hunger games for for the human brain and i know you love the movie references and uh we’re just like we’re being attacked from every which way from you know the the industrial chemicals which we are confronted with on a daily basis many of which we’ve we’ve been exposed to for the entirety of our lives to the fact that you know leisure time physical activity is at an all-time low to the fact that our food supply has become saturated with ultra processed foods to the fact that our circadian clocks are completely out of whack so the genius life i really explore all of the facets of what it takes to live healthy i include nutrition and diet as well but it’s really packed with sort of the the little changes that you can make in your day-to-day life that are going to have big wins in terms of your health when you were doing the research what was something that really surprised you well i think it was kind of uh you know it was scary the degree to which um the odds were stacked against the average human and and that was very eye-opening but it was also something what’s the odds against us well just the fact that you know whether it’s access to healthy food or air pollution or you know the industrial chemicals that we use to clean or even create our domiciles you know our homes um we’re just we’re inundated with with exposures that are not doing our biology any favors um so those are the that’s what i mean i mean today uh it’s it’s frightening when you look around you see people that are you know struggling with overweight with being obese 66 of the population is either overweight or obese half of the population is either pre-diabetic or has type 2 diabetes which we know both of those conditions is actually a late marker for chronically elevated insulin or hyperinsulinemia which can go on for years if not decades before your blood sugar actually starts to inch up you know to a degree that a doctor would measure it so you know people are not well um if you live to the age of 85 you have a one in two chance of being diagnosed with alzheimer’s disease um certain cancers are increasing in their frequency in the 1960s a woman’s lifetime risk of developing breast cancer was one in 20 today it’s about one in eight so there’s obviously been a mutation in our environments our genes haven’t changed all that much and yet the default state for any organism is health but you look around and people are not healthy people are not feeling well when you look in the mirror i mean i want your listeners to kind of introspect for a minute and ask whether or not you feel healthy whether or not you feel virile and vital and well and i wrote this book and i became obsessed with with this topic and really communicating this message to any anybody who will listen ultimately because my mom was so sick and i feel in many ways that she was the canary in the coal mine for the modern way of life i never look at it as investments believe it or not i just look at it as partnerships help changing the world and just being part of something that’s inspiring my business people all the time whenever they talk about money you’re going to ask them otherwise i don’t want to hear it but if they bring an idea to me that i think is going to go to the next level most of the time if i follow my heart and everything else will fall in place i’ve never ever done a deal a we got this suit company we throw some pin stripes in the suit you give me a hundred thousand we sell 20 of them we make i’ve never did a deal where it was always based on money i’ve always did my business deals based on how i felt it was going to go in the future how i felt it was going to help and inspire somebody if i look at what amazon was able to do 20 years ago we didn’t have to build a transportation network it already existed that heavy lifting was in place we didn’t have to build a payment system that heavy lifting had already been done it was the credit card system we didn’t have to build um put a computer at every desk that had already been done too mostly for playing games by the way and so on so all the pieces of heavy lifting were already in place 20 years ago and that’s why as with a million dollars i could start this company today you know and then there are even better examples on the internet over the last 20 years you know facebook started in a dorm room uh i guarantee you two kids cannot build a giant space company in their dorm room don’t be so concerned about what you’re going to do with those people but you want to you know the joint brain is you know there’s nothing the joint brain collective brain or brains can’t overcome and i give the example of the atomic bomb the manhattan project and they were put together and they were told we need uh we need to develop a weapon of mass destruction which they didn’t call it that back in those days uh in the middle 40s to end the war in the pacific and they did they didn’t know if it was implode or explode but they did but if you’re if your team doesn’t look like that then you should i won’t say you should give serious thought you should just change how much exposure is it like tyler will tell you sitting right here one of the only times i still do free work is if it’s massive exposure there are forty nine thousand people in the audience i’m still a lot of experience you know like like it’s live on you know it’s during the super like like i’ll pay somebody to put me in a super bowl commercial right like when they when when i get exposure or and that’s where i’m at now in the for you when you pick these five restaurants let it be the biggest restaurants in your 30 mile radius let it be the kindest let it be somebody who has the biggest instagram following and maybe like whether you know you never want to give with expectation but it’s it’s okay to ask you’re like hey i’d love to sharpen your knives for free the nature of capitalism is that people want to come in and take your castle perfectly understandable i mean if i’m selling television sets or something there’s going to be 10 other people who can try and sell a better television set if i have a restaurant here in omaha people are going to try and copy my menu and get more parking and take my chef and so on so capitalism is all about somebody coming and trying to take the castle now what you need is you need a castle that has some durable competitive advantage some castle that has a moat around it and that moat that’s one of the best moats in many respects is to be a low-cost producer but sometimes the motor is just having more talent i mean if you’re the heavyweight champion in the world you keep knocking out people you’ve got a competitive advantage as long as you can keep doing it and it’s very profitable uh if you’re the one that happens to be able to do it if you can turn out great motion pictures i mean you know steven spielberg i mean he he he’s a fellow to bet on and and it has enormous economic value
