Step Into Your Purpose by Lisa Nichols
hello hello hello how are you guys doing
hello hello hello
that was that was like a real dialog
thing how you doing honey I’m so excited
to be with you guys I’m so excited to be
here we were here a few days ago with
the extraordinary summit which was just
that extraordinary how many guys were
here for that
it makes them noise I love you guys we
had a great time we were in an amazing
love fest and then I dashed home for two
days to come back today and tomorrow I
start our platinum training down by at
the Hilton by the bay with our platinum
coaches for the next three days so it
has been a whirlwind wonderful time I
could not allow this to launch and
happen and not be here so while the
scheduling was a challenge a bit the yes
was very easy
how many guys know sometimes the yes and
your belly is easy the how is what you
got to work out but the yes is clear
right I love it when you feel that way I
love it when you know that because it’s
real easy to move a mountain when you’ve
decided to move the mountain so I came
by and Jude asked me to come by to
really have a necessary conversation I
think all of us needs the Hat all of us
need to have just about what does
abundance look like to you you’re in the
world of coaching you’re coaching people
how to stand in their greatness stay in
their greatness move to their greatness
own their greatness how to move out of
their junk how to get unstuck how to
push past their fears how to keep going
where they normally would stop how to
press reset how to redesign their lives
reconnect their lives I know a little
bit about coaching I do a little bit
that’s what you’re here for
really you’re teaching people how to
have abundance and not just that old
definition of abundance not to say that
unilateral abundance is about finances
and possessions but you’re really here
to teach people about 360 abundance yes
yes okay y’all look why let me explain
something somebody I don’t know how many
guys it’s your first time in a room with
me live oh oh that’s why then I got my
oh geez in the house we go way back okay
so when I
when I am in church and I say something
people like they say Amen
but we’re not in church when I’m with my
girls and it’s just me and my girls and
I say something they love they say you
go girl
but guys don’t worry I won’t have you do
that when I say something that resonates
with you just you not the coach but the
man or the woman I want you to say yes
yes but I want ii yes to be a little bit
louder than the first as a matter of
fact I want the second yes to be a lot
louder than the first yes that second
yes has to cost you a little something
so let’s try it on the count of three
this is a real test one two three ms:i
not quite worth all the traffic that I
just set in to get here I want that
second yes to be that yes to your dreams
I want that second yes to be that yes
that you say when no one else agrees
with you I want that sucking yes to be
that yes that says I have to do this
this is not an option this is
non-negotiable is that yes it comes from
your core so we’re in a little louder on
the count of three one two three every
time you hear something that resonates
with your soul I want you to say I want
you to say when it feels good you say
watch my truth that’s who I am
even if I may not see it today I may
have seen it yesterday as other people
don’t see it that still Who I am
every time you hear it I want you to say
even if your neighbor isn’t playing yet
I want you to still say what and when I
finish speaking and when you go for a
coffee breaker you’re hanging out and
someone says something and it feels good
to your soul I want you to say and when
another teacher comes on and they say
something amazing and wonderful let them
know they did let them know you resonate
with them by saying and when you leave
this place and you’re back at home and
something feels good and even though
we’re not physically there even though
we’re not together in this tribe again
physically but we are still together
emotionally and spiritually
I still want you at home to say what and
even if you’re holding your vision alone
and no one else gets in I still want you
to say what without me putting my damn
hand here here I still want you to say
what without me even indicating that is
that you could say it I want you to not
ask permission I just want you to jump
right out and say when it feels right
for you just saying as you know when
your truth is touched and I’m having you
say it so that you get the audible
indication that something served my soul
right then that I’m awakened alive and
I’m playing full-out and I want you to
say yes yes because people don’t allow
us to agree with something out loud that
they can’t like the necklace but this is
your journey you know one can deduct and
don’t whisper it yes yeah I want you to
say it boldly I want you to step into
that next best season boldly I want you
to know that I’m in the right place at
the right time with the right people
doing the right thing having the right
conversation yes yes yes yes like you
have to move a mountain some of you to
get here you have to change your
schedule you invest it you travel yes
and you’re here in this room right now
when you’re in this room play full out
I want that second yes to be something
you did not give up this morning
expecting the second now why would I ask
you to say yes yes why would I ask you
to make the second yes louder than the
first yes it’s not just a cliche it’s
not just the monstrous not just
something so you can remember me later
it’s not that at all see several years
ago when I realized my life was taking a
path and it was a path way beyond what I
had imagined the first yes was to me
it’s easy yes yes I want to be a speaker
yes I want to be a coach yes only be an
author yes I want to inspire people
but that’s second yes the reason why
needs to be a little bit louder than the
first yes or a lot louder the first yet
is because the second yes wasn’t to me
the second yes is to the divine
assignment on my life the second guess
is to the assignment on your life that’s
bigger than what you could ever see yes
yes that second yes is going to cost you
something in order to be that man in
order to be that woman you’re going to
have to get out of your own way yes yes
in order to produce something that
you’ve never produced before you’re
gonna have to save something you’ve
never said before do something you’ve
never done before so you can be the man
the woman you’ve always known yourself
to be yes yes that’s going to cost you
something so that’s second yes got to be
a little bit louder in the first year so
it can pull up your courage that it was
in the second yesterday Jeep was able to
get on this stage it was in the second
yesterday Jeep was able to go out to the
ocean it wasn’t the first yes that’s an
easy yes that’s that polish yes that you
do that that you’re 70% by the way
impresses everybody yes come on yeah
I forgot to tell you got to say yes yes
even if I like bust you out and sit and
you know how long you got to say yes
even in because you’re brilliant this
room ever coach MindValley will only
attract brilliant conscious people who
are about doing big things in the world
so what we have to remember is that our
70% if someone if someone else’s 159
percent come on you guys you know them
you know that person they’re at home
right now watching Hulu Netflix or
something while you’re here growing your
butt mine and so you have to realize
that where is my second yes where is
that yes that makes my knees knock in my
teeth chatter I want to go find that yes
I love it read stories he talked about
knees knocking and teeth chattering and
doing it anyway that’s the kind of coach
I want to have I want to have that kind
of kosher says yes I’m afraid but watch
me leap full of fear I’m not going to
hold my fear and and take of real estate
in my fear I’m going to leave with my
fear I got to come with me or leave yes
yes I look at my life and it’s barely
recognizable that by no-one’s accord I
should be here
no one’s record should I be here I was
that kid right up the road about a
hundred and twenty miles in Los Angeles
I struggled for twelve years all through
school my highest rate was a c-plus a
c-plus don’t forget my plus
if you tell my story later so the a
students the plus don’t matter but to us
see students how many see students in
the room okay thank you thank you thank
you the plus matters doesn’t it I was a
C+ student and I got to tell you when I
would get a CI come home and do the
happy dance go Lisa it’s a birthday
because I worked hard for that see I I
didn’t learn quickly I found out later
that I was wonderfully significantly
dyslexic but while I was in school I
didn’t know I just know everything was
turned backwards everything just felt
like it cuz I couldn’t get it fast and
the school system didn’t want to wait on
me they didn’t had time to wait on me so
I struggled I know I passed several
classrooms I was an ice cube there like
you so nice we just gonna bash you I
accept
I accept your kindness and so when I
look at my life the last time I took an
English class I gotta fail my English
teachers told me in front of the entire
classroom Lisa you have to be the
weakest writer I’ve ever met in my
entire life see some of your greatest
gifts came wrapped in sandpaper yes yes
some your greatest gifts I stand in
front of you today a seven-time
best-selling author so I guess somebody
understands my writing now let me get
this straight
I don’t grammar is not my thing I don’t
know where to put the period I’m a
run-on sentence mama I don’t put a
period so I’ll finish my thought and
then and then and now I’m done and I
don’t even know why they invented
somebody : : who invented a semicolon or
a colon like you must have been bored
like really weird so I remember when my
first best seller came out I realized
wait a minute I don’t have to be a great
writer I just have to have great stories
there’s an editor somewhere this is
dying to put that semicolon in there so
being willing to leap I look at my life
and I ten days ago I I just moved into
new offices I started my offices in 1994
in a closet a walk-in closet and I had
handheld mirrors that came from CVS 499
mirrors that have mounted
the wall in my walk-in closet so my
office can look bigger and I took the
pant hangers that were on the rack and I
clipped my manila folders on the pant
hangers and that was my filing system
and I worked out of that closet for four
years that closet was where I birthed my
dreams and I’m sitting there in that
closet in the yellow pages some of y’all
know what I’m talking about but others
who way back in the day right and I’m
trying to find new people to tell I got
great I have inspiration I can inspire
your community I can inspire your
business in the Yellow Pages I call 21
companies ten people took my call four
people gave me a chance I said hi I’m
calling behalf police’ll Nichols I was
at least I was calling on behalf of Lisa
Nichols and I just what you know she’s
an amazing motivational speaker and
you’ve qualified to get a free speaking
engagement but you have the book of the
next ten days and I got four engagements
now the beginning of my career and I
look back I look back on those days when
my son and I ate beanies and weenies for
six days out of the week and I try to
change the beanie and change the weenie
and put a different kind of sauce in it
add a little barbecue sauce I did
everything I could but I was willing to
risk it all to gain it all so I just
stopped by to ask you are you willing to
risk it all to gain at all are you will
and are you willing to place so big you
scare yourself are you willing to seem a
little strange a little bizarre you know
you walk in this room and and when you
get into this room and you get around
everyone you go I think it’s okay I
think it’s okay for me to pull it out I
think it’s okay for me to pull out my
unicorn I’ve been faking like I’m a
horse all week long I am so glad I’m
finally amongst people who are okay
being different yes yes and so I just
stopped by I stopped by to to introduce
the conversation of possibility at
another level of abundance at another
level 360 abundance and to share with
you some things that abundant thinkers
think abundant thinkers live abundant
thinkers are constantly in the space of
so you may want to write these down
because these are the things and a lot
of this is in my book that came out in
January a bun
now and it was funny because my I got a
million dollars to write my book over a
million dollars write my book and I tell
people and I said how did you feel
getting a million dollar to write your
book I said the only thing that made the
million dollars beautiful was the fact
that I got a fail in English the last
time I took a English class that’s the
distance a possibility that’s the
distance of what you can create
when you become radical and not
negotiable I wasn’t supposed to be here
by many people staff I wasn’t told to be
here I wasn’t qualified to be here see
all of that woman on government’s
assistance in 1994 I was that woman on
WIC women infant and children in 1994 I
was that woman that couldn’t afford to
put pampers on my son so I’ll wrap them
in a towel for two days in 1995 I’m that
woman so what would get me to being a
best selling author times seven books
running a multi-million dollar company
having my company go public two years
ago and go off or we’re fair to Wall
Street it will simply be being
non-negotiable so I just got by to check
in if you’re willing to be
non-negotiable if you’re willing to stop
asking the world for permission to be
amazing to be brilliant to be divine
stop asking the world for permission and
begin today to give the world notice CAG
says something’s going to happen to you
while you’re here and I love that have
an expectation on your life you didn’t
come here for them to do you okay oh
geez I’m here do me no this is your life
your opportunity you’re brilliant see
the doors have been open and now you
dance to your rhythm sing to your song
you play to your tune and all you need
to do is pick up a little bit here and
pick up a little bit there and then take
radical action and become non-negotiable
yes yes be willing abundant thinkers
number one abundant thinkers don’t just
have macro wins abundant thinkers create
micro wins so the statement is abundant
thinkers create micro lens to get to
macro
you’re going to play big say big you’re
going to play huge st. huge you’re going
to play ginormous a ginormous but first
pick baby steps you gonna eat the
elephant take one small bite first chew
it good right we want so much so fast my
grandmother says baby she starts every
sentence with baby I’m sure it’s because
she cannot remember all of our names
she’s a baby
the best things you’ll ever have from
Grandma will never come from the
microwave they always come from the oven
and I was like I think some somehow
she’s trying to give me a lesson here
and I realized that the best things that
you’re going to create are going to take
time build it on cement not thinking
saying you’re going to get tons and tons
and tons of tools here and you’re going
to want to fast forward when you fast
forward you’re building on Plexiglas
you’ve been on styrofoam you bet on wood
you want to build it on semen your dream
is important enough to outlive you yes
yes and so I realized that that you
can’t Google download resiliency you
can’t Google download tenacity
you can’t Google download forgiveness
there are some of the best qualities and
characteristics that’s going to take you
a long way that you need to invest time
in and energy in and intention in you
don’t just get patience I want patience
I’m reading prepare somebody’s gonna
piss you off tomorrow then now you get
to test of your patience I realized I
realized that as I wanted to develop me
I have to be willing to climb and I
wanted to get to the top and there’s no
elevator to the top I got to do my
squats I got to work on my quads and my
hamstrings and my calves because I got a
climb to the top
we got a climb and you got the perfect
tools so as abundant thinkers you create
micro winds to get to macro winds number
two abundant thinkers are not just
responsible for our actions and our
thoughts abundant thinkers are
responsible for their reaction
abundant thinkers are not just
responsible for your actions and your
thoughts we’re responsible for our
reactions as well when you look at every
great leader not the kooky ones ya all
know but the great leader you don’t
trigger a great leader
you don’t trigger an abundant thinker
you may cause them to pause but you
don’t have the power to trigger them
because we’ve become responsible for our
reaction that’s next level right that’s
next level that’s next level abundant
thinkers abundant thinkers don’t spend
our time on penny tasks abundant
thinkers don’t spend dollar time on
penny tasks what’s the highest
revenue-generating activity that only
keyword is only you can do what’s the
highest service activity that only you
can do see the best thing that I can do
in my company at all times is create
content create content or get in front
of people anything else I’m out of my
lane
anything else I’m an impersonator now
I’m personally all the times on my staff
crazy
I never both Yoji lanes did I feel a
little odd
I feel fine no that feels odd y’all
chillin and I get back in my lane
abundant thinkers abundant thinkers keep
themselves in a constant state of
cognitive dissonance
write that down abundant thinkers keep
themselves in a constant state a
constant state of cognitive dissonance
your creative spell it any way you want
now what is cognitive dissonance
cognitive dissonance is when you have
literally thought about a version of
yourself that you’re not currently
living right now
meaning the thought that you have of
yourself your behaviors are not
congruent with so your mind becomes
disrupted your mind says wait a minute
you’re seeing me here but I might be
haters aren’t here and when you keep
yourself in a constant state your mind
begins to influence your behaviors to be
congruent with your thoughts
ooh next level cognitive dissonance
abundant thinker
that’s why he went out to the ocean
that’s why he’s up on faces constantly
seen himself further than what his
behaviors want to really do and then
when he does it
now I got that down constantly now it’s
being grateful for your now yes yes
being grateful for your now but clearly
seeing where you’re going and not
resting until you get there yes yes and
then becoming abundant thinkers live in
non negotiable adverse thinkers live an
optional hmm a first thing cuz if I
really would love to have a new business
but your behaviors are not control what
you say you would love when you move
from optional to non-negotiable you slit
you slit every other option off the
table Alice’s interviewed 155 times in
five months and the number one question
I was asked was Lisa how did you go from
public assistance to go in public how
did you go from welfare to Wall Street
how did you build a multi-million dollar
business how did you do it
and I look at this I just slit every
other option off the table like I really
did I split every option there was no
other option burn the ship burn the ship
don’t go back there wasn’t there was no
other option I didn’t even I didn’t have
a plan B it’s a capital A our baby damn
a but is a if now or later but imma get
it once you get to that place something
happens the universe aligns with you
because you’re so intentional I was an
investor meeting and I was raising
capital for my first company motivating
the team spirit and one of the investors
in the room prospective investors he
raised his hand I’m telling imma do this
and this is back 15 16 17 years ago I
had no evidence how many are right there
you have idea but you have no evidence
of what you was coming forward right
right so I’m talking to you I had no
evidence in the world
what I was going to produce none but I’m
on fire and you know your your passion
is can be contagious not because I
believed it like you got to believe you
you got to be your cheer like nobody
else is going to be your cheerleader and
I’m telling about what I was going to do
and
said you know my wife and I don’t have
children
we’ve decided consciously not to have
children we don’t even know if we like
children he said but somehow I believe
you’re going to do this and I feel like
it’s my social responsibility to just
help you because you’re on fire he said
someone invest $25,000 in your company
he said in I don’t even know if I want
to call it an investment because you
just seem so far I just I feel like I
just want to get you to you I said well
can I get that in writing yes yes and so
when you’re on fire for you you choose
the world how to be on fire for you
abundant thinkers abundant thinkers stop
asking permission abundant thinkers give
notice abundant thinkers stop wondering
if the world’s going to prove of me
abundant thinkers just do them no one
can do you better than you no one no one
can sing to your rhythm Noah can dance
no one can move no one has your tone no
one has your vibration no one can do you
better than you the best gift you can
give us is the best version of you ever
and when you’ve mastered that you don’t
the master anyone else just master you
I’ve heard from so many people so many
television studios oh my god you’re the
next Oprah I said yeah fit listen if you
want me to do Oprah
I will undoubtably 100% of the time fail
you but if you’re ever interested I do a
damn good Lisa nickel I’m just saying I
got her down so when you master you and
people are going to choose you they’re
going to choose you based on watching
you do you they’re gonna choose you not
based on the fact that you’ve never been
not down leather choose you based on the
gracefulness that you get up with so
don’t avoid failure where failure well
abundant thinkers is your next point
abundant thinkers fail just write that
down abundant thinkers fail we fail why
cuz we risk more we’re putting more out
there
I risk so much I Drive everyone crazy
around me because I risk abundant
thinkers fail we’ll write this down
abundant thinkers only fell forward we
only fell forward we always look at what
are the two things that I did right
and what are the three things that I can
improve upon and we let that improvement
inform our future see when you when
something doesn’t work the way you want
it and you fail fail you’re afraid to
leap again that’s because you didn’t
pull the lesson out of it so it is just
a failure if you don’t put Alessa is
just a failure when you have that
relationship that didn’t in the way you
wanted if you don’t pull out all the
values that they gave you all the
lessons that you learned all the joy
that you had and you look at just the
fact that you broke up the relationship
didn’t really break up but other than
that is just two people who were
complete with one another yes yes y’all
should see the way y’all looking at me
like this I will she is intense a G Jen
tell us about this he did not prepare us
for her and she off the stage this is
not authorized see all down in front of
us right no one wrote the rules that the
rules
I got I’m always out here cuz this is
where I want to be I don’t care about a
stage they know when they invite me do
you Lisa do you don’t read the handbook
that handbook is not your business
that handbook can’t have you in it write
your own damn handbook right who cares
no one can give the world of what you
can give the world the way you give the
world you know one and when you start
dancing with that level of awareness and
that confidence that you are perfect
inside your imperfection yes yes
matter of fact is your imperfection that
makes you perfect for everyone else yes
yes because if you are perfect then you
have no clients because no one will be a
match
for you hello hello hissing your
transparency your willingness to take
them into your DIMP y’all say dip baby
dip baby dip come everybody come on dip
baby dip baby dip baby dip so look at my
life now and I have the pleasure of
having a wildly financially successful
life but it looks nothing like it looked
in 1997 1997 my middle name was Lisa NSF
check Nichols I always had so many NSF
checks I couldn’t pay attention I was so
broke I couldn’t do anything I couldn’t
see my son I was so broken and finally I
decided wait a minute
I cannot live this life have you ever
been to a place where you knew this is
not who I know myself to be this is not
who I am this is incongruent this life
is incongruent with who I know myself to
be anybody been there yes and I I look
up I said wait a minute this is not my
destiny and I realized no one was going
to rescue me and I had to rescue myself
that I am my own rescue I was on a Steve
Harvey Show about five or six times and
one of the times the first time actually
he said where did you come from what did
you do and I told about the story of not
having any money and being broke and
broken and I got to tell you it’s easier
to be broke than it is to be broken C
broke I’ve just got to figure out how to
make some money being broken I got to
figure out how to get in my spirit to
want to get out of bed to go do
something and I got broken broken I then
have I thought I was on rock bottom I
don’t know if anybody’s been there where
you thought you were at rock bottom and
then something happening you went down a
couple more notches like oh that one
that wasn’t rock bottom yet boo boo boo
boo oh oh that’s rock bottom well that
happens to me in 1997 when I thought I
was on rock bottom and then I got this
phone call and this may not you
not relate to this just like this story
but you’ll have your own story is that
okay I’m just going to tell you my story
and we find our humanity in it it was
just a story of of constant hiccups
after hiccup after hiccup after letdown
after letdown after poor decision it was
one of those can you find yours I must
share with you mine I get a phone call
and I just had my son and I been born
and raised in LA there’s gangs
everywhere and I made a decision as a
kid I don’t know why I just made it as a
kid that’s not my path I don’t want to
have anything to do with it so I didn’t
have a lot of friends to play with after
a while because everyone was going down
that path and I just refused to go down
that path and when my girlfriend started
dating the local neighborhood boys I
thought I’m not doing that because one
day they’re gonna do something wrong and
they don’t go to jail and then you’re
gonna be locked a tie to a man in jail
that’s not my path every day I’m
watching The Brady Bunch
I don’t know if y’all heard know about
the Brady Bunch but the Brady Bunch had
a happy life and I will watch The Brady
Bunch I’m gonna have the Brady Bunch
life they walk upstairs you guys know
they walk upstairs you never knew where
they went
I’m like I don’t know where they going
but I’m my son so tired of me having
two-story houses as always have luggage
she’s like mom can you stop with the –
sir I’m like I’m not I think it’s the
Brady Bunch thing and so I knew early on
that I wasn’t going to have that path
that my neighborhood had I just made a
decision and I definitely didn’t want to
be tied to a man that would end up in
prison not my destiny not on my watch so
when I fell in love at 26 you know young
love fell in love at 26 and he was
amazing he’s brilliant he was a teacher
and I ended up getting pregnant
unexpectedly had my son jeylani I get a
call the call like that call like the
one you never want call for me it was
the call of all calls it just took my
life hey Lisa I’m in jail
you’re what we’re 28 years old do are
you kidding me you had a job what are
you doing
none of it mattered there’s always a
reason no one’s ever guilty really miss
journey now I have an african-american
male child in South Central Los Angeles
whose father is in prison
statistics say he has a 66 percent
chance of duplicating his father’s day
well everybody else’s kid don’t have
this lady as a mama not not on my watch
not on my watch I don’t care about
statistic they don’t know me I then
begin to look and say how can i reinvent
myself how can i reinvent myself i was
willing to evict any part of lisa that
would hold her back to any form of who
she was I was willing I was willing to
confront any behavior procrastination
the blame game the fear game
codependency anything that would keep me
where I was I was willing to confront it
and evict it and I was willing to also
love some people from a distance I was
willing see I’m not sure about you but
see I was in it to transform my life I
needed a life like oxygen I needed to
live my dreams like you need water every
day I don’t know about you I don’t know
what drives you here I don’t know what
will keep you here I don’t know what
have you take action but I knew I didn’t
want to get to the end of my life and
saying I didn’t give Lisa a chance hmm
because you know your greatest fear is
not that you’re gonna die your greatest
fear is that you will die before the
world feels your fingerprint come on
y’all somebody to say yes yes y’all yeah
y’all so-called alike
that’s your greatest fear is that the
world won’t see you before you leave
this place and then you don’t know what
your – miss the – between your birthday
and your transition day what did it mean
I’m making mine mean something I don’t
plan to have any energy left when I
leave this place I want to be so tired I
can’t wait to rest for eternity
I came up finally I get to lay down I’m
not trying to take it in my brilliance
with me I’m not trying to take any of my
courage with me I’m not trying to take
any of my my thoughts with me any of my
love which I want to give all my love
while I’m here I’m gonna hold it back
because the last ding dong didn’t know
how to treat me so no I’m not gonna make
my next pay for my ass oh no yeah that’s
what some of y’all I’m not gonna make my
future pay for my past I don’t want to
leave with anything in me and I just
stopped by to see if a few folk wanted
to do the same yeah I just stopped by to
see if I can stir your soul I didn’t
come here to keep you comfortable oh no
I came here to disrupt every form of
mediocrity in you ah is it working yeah
phoom phoom phoom yeah why no one wants
to be alone I don’t want to be alone
when I was in the valley and I damn sure
don’t want to be alone I’m on a
mountaintop I’m just here to call you to
the thing that you want to be call for
see we we often need someone to love us
enough to get in our face and say you
are brilliant live like it you’re
amazing live like it you’re courageous
love like it you can forgive the
unforgivable when you want to and you
can love the unlovable when you choose
to you are brilliant unique unrepeatable
miracles in this room and there’s a
calling on your life and you don’t get
to shake it cuz you’re scared you don’t
get to shake it because you don’t have
all the details you don’t get to shake
it because no one supports you you don’t
get to shake the calling on your life
see with a price you pay for that ticket
that was the least price this seat here
ain’t free and
wrong you are the chosen few in this
room because to whom much is given what
much is required and you are the perfect
person for this assignment you’re the
perfect person with all of your
idiosyncrasies with all of your OCD miss
with all of your back you’re the perfect
person for this assignment the
university is waiting on you to say yes
yes you said the first yet you said that
first yes but you ain’t said that second
yes yet you trying to have it not cost
you something your conviction is going
to be inconveniencing ha ha ha ha ha ha
see you trying to keep your convictions
inside your convenience it ain’t
happening see their conviction can never
be convenient because it’s just a choice
what makes it a conviction is when it’s
cost you something and you’re willing to
pay the price come on y’all come on
y’all y’all program I’m just sayin I’m
just I’m just sharing what I have to do
and I haven’t arrived anywhere you guys
I’m still on a journey but I’ve made it
through some phases of this journey and
my friend asked me to stop by and share
with you is this what you wanted me to
share with them ok amen amen I never
have notes I don’t know what and they I
think they would love me to have a
PowerPoint I would get so confused first
of all and my gonna push that button are
they gonna push the buddy you so I just
wondered are you willing in that year
when I was really broken I was really
broken I was working at LA Unified
School District I was miserable I was
miserable because I wasn’t living in my
dream I was just doing a jato B and then
one day I said well what what do I need
to do I need to I need to buy my freedom
that’s not he’s going to buy my freedom
I don’t know about behind my freedom I
don’t know about buying I don’t know
about having money saved up my family
didn’t have money saved up my mother
used to tell me oh this money is burning
my pocket so I know two things about
money is hot and we can’t keep it long
we’d always have one week when we had
all the food in the refrigerator than
one week where we were if the
refrigerator was empty right come on
come on some of you guys know about that
to this day I spend so much money on
groceries you guys oh my god is like I’m
feeding like a family of ten because I’m
so afraid of anybody ever being in my
house and being hungry and so I I wrote
a check to myself
Jelani was 310 dollars I took it to the
bank
Wells Fargo I started a new account the
next check I wrote one hundred and
twenty-five dollars and just like the
first check I put in the middle line
funding my dream
I wasn’t even clear what the dream was
but I knew there was something in my
belly so and ezreal know you got
something in your belly it’s something
I’m not even clear about it I don’t know
how clear you are but I wasn’t clear
about it but I knew there was a calling
on my life greater than working for LA
Unified School District and no
disrespect to LA Unified School just
wasn’t my destiny I wrote another check
in two weeks one hundred and forty six
dollars funding my dream now I started
mailing the checks in because I didn’t
want to see my balance because I don’t
want to go shopping because I you gonna
repeat what you learn right until you
decide to not repeat what you learned
so I mailed to check-in and I wrote
another check and I wrote another check
if every check I wrote I made sure it
was five percent more than the first
check the net the previous check I sold
my Altima I had a cardinal solo author
book bought a clunker because it hadn’t
have a car note
now I can write a bigger check I’m in my
dream I moved out of my three-bedroom
three bed three bath house and moved in
became a roommate with my friend who
smokes
I put towels at the base of the door so
the smoke wouldn’t come to the door I
was willing to be inconvenienced are you
I’m just saying I’m just I’m just
showing you the story I just saw the
charge I just gave you I stopped
getting my hair done that was when I
started going natural I said I stopped
going out I stopped going out dancing I
stopped going out to dinners my family
know what was going on they thought oh
my god you know as LA she’s on drugs but
she’s not losing weight so maybe not I
don’t know what’s going on I kept
writing bigger checks to myself $900
$900 i melted to a fargo sundae my dream
$1100 melted to Wells Fargo funding my
dream I still wasn’t clear what the
dream was I just knew I had one and it
was being born through me and I needed
to give it a chance that’s all I knew
you don’t have to see 2,000 feet in
front of you just see 200 then run to
the 200 you’ll have to see it all three
and a half years later I’ve written a
check to myself every two weeks for
three and a half years I didn’t go out
for three and a half years I didn’t go
dance and I get this didn’t get my hair
done I need to get my nails done for
three and a half years are you willing
to be inconvenience for your conviction
I walk in to Wells Fargo three and a
half years later and I said hi god bless
you hi my name is Lisa nickel she was oh
my god you’re the funding my dream lady
I was like yeah I guess I am and all of
a sudden all the tellers came running
around the manager came and like oh my
god okay oh my god we have been
wondering we all got the same question
y’all know the questions right what’s
your dream I was like um I’m not sure
but I know that it includes inspiring
people having people believe in
themselves again teach them how to get
back up when they’ve been knocked out
you having to be willing to give them
self a thousand second chances and every
time they get to 999 press reset I’m not
sure what it’s going to look like what
is this going to help people I thought I
came to check my balance I’ve been
writing a few checks to you guys and say
yes you’ve been writing a lot so I just
want to check my balances you all know
your balance to know I got this really
big stack of summary bank statements at
home because my mama said money burns
her pockets not I wanted to burn my
pocket I wanted to pay for my freedom so
I just came to see what my balance was
if I had enough to fund my dream as it
gets clear she wrote it down everyone’s
excited she wrote it down turn it around
to me I looked at it I said oh no my
name is Lisa Shante Nichols and my so
security no I said that is not my money
and I am not taking that money because
you’re probably gonna want it back
so just fix that error right now and he
looks at me I said you really don’t
think that’s yours
I said no my family’s never had $5,000
in the bank or $10,000 in the bank
that’s sixty two thousand five hundred
dollars in the bank
they sent Miss Nichols and everyone
teared up the manager tears of the
tellers teared up
they said Miss Nichols whatever your
dream is I think you can fund it now I
looked at my son Jelani who now is five
or six I said ten money our lives are
gonna be a little different now baby
Jelani said yeah mommy can we can’t we
now go to McDonnell see for three years
I’ve been telling you Lani I’ll make you
a Big Mac mama makes Big Macs better
than McDonald’s and so begin with a
hundred and ten dollar check so I don’t
know what yours is I don’t know what
your radical looks like
for some of you your radical was coming
here right yes yes and this is the
beginning this is the beginning of your
radical this is the this is the best the
next best step this is the first step
and so I just stopped by to let you know
you’re on the right and and as you ramp
up as you ramp up you’re going to have
questions you’re going to be afraid I do
more things afraid now than I do
fearless because the bigger you play the
bigger your breakdown every single one
of my errors in the last five years have
cost me six figures like every single
one every single one of my errors has
required me to call an attorney like
they’re just big one because I’m playing
big I’m playing big so be willing to go
to the edge and this is where you are
here be willing to go to the edge and
not just lean over and feel the breeze
and watch the people jump and watch them
soar and look through the windows at all
the people are living great lies don’t
just go to the edge and feel it be
willing to lean fill your heart beat
feel it I’d let you know you’re alive to
let you know you’re okay see your fuels
you fear let you know go get more
information fear let you know step below
later and study
fear let you know get up a little
earlier fear let you know ask for help
fear is informing you it’s not stopping
you it’s just another emotion like love
and compassion and gratitude we just
made it paralyze us see fear doesn’t
stop me
fear informs me and when you get
intimately connected with the fear I
feel it and I’m moving forward anyway I
feel it and I’m going to love anyway I
feel it and I’m going to invest in me
anyway I feel it I’m going to show up
and play anyway when you get
connected with fear it becomes your best
friend then when you stand on the edge
you feel the breeze you feel the fear
and you leap anyway and one of three
things will happen either God I call
them God you call them whatever you
choose I’m not here to impose my belief
system on you but either God will give
you wings to fly you will get something
soft to land on or you won’t be given
something soft to land on and you’ll hit
the ground real damn hard and you’ll get
up yes yes how many of us have hit the
ground real damn hard and got up yes yes
so now that you know that you got that
down and you’re okay leap leap because
you’re not betting on the best horse in
town you are the best jockey in town if
you are the best bet I’m not a Vegas
gambling girl I’m a Lisa gambling girl
I’ll bet on me all day long will you bet
on you then betting on you looks like
showing up and playing full out playing
so fill out you scare yourself playing
so fill out you creative like this
unrecognizable and your friends look at
you say something’s different if I’m
glad you noticed
you’re not the same so I’m glad you
noticed you don’t you don’t act the same
things are different see some of you are
trying to bring too many people along
with you yes yes you’re going through a
doorway like this and that doorway only
fits you right now are you trying to
save everybody you rescue 9 1 1 11
Universal Sam I’m trying to give you
your blessings I’m trying to give you
your divinity I’m trying to give you
your possibility I was interviewed once
in this woman say Lisa do you ever feel
guilty that you left your community I
said absolutely not the best thing I can
do for my community is go through that
door become the woman that I am today
and then go back to the
tell them what I learned so are you
willing are you willing to risk it all
to gain at all
hi everyone are you willing to play big
at the risk that it all might work yes
yes are you willing to love deeply at
the risk of Fame I love you deeply back
yes yes are you willing are you willing
to show up at the risk that they buy
really see you see some of your not
afraid of failing you afraid of being
seen I’m asked my friend that’s what I
love about a jeep that we are we are
dynamic like a dynamic duel I know I
know what he deals with I know it I
could see it in them and he sees it I me
and he’s so compassionate to my learning
curve whenever we’re talking I’m so
compassionate to his learning curve and
together we cause each other to
tippy-toe so play with someone that’s
not going to let you off the hook of
your greatness see don’t let me off the
hook of my greatness and I won’t let you
off the hook of your greatness that’s
the best gift we can give to each other
don’t let me leave this place having not
given you all my brilliance please call
me to my greatness call me to my
divinity call me to the highest level
that I can love highest level that I can
forgive highest level that can earn call
me to it and then give me permission to
call you to it join tribes like this
join circles like this and say listen
don’t let me make sexy excuses because
all my excuses are sexy I’m a
linguistics specialist I can come up
with some sexy stuff like I’ll get by
you in for my excuse like yeah let’s no
one work today no don’t let me off the
hook and ask me not to let you off dock
so you’re here at ever coach you’re here
to birth the next best version of you
you’re here because the day today is the
first day of the rest of your life
you’re here because today is the first
day of the best part of your life you
choose you choose see I’m okay with
being unapologetic I I walked so many
times in so many years asking permission
can
be smart even though I’m Dyslexic can I
be brilliant even though I gotta fail in
English can I be a speaker even though I
got a d-minus in speech can I be immense
something happened one day when I got
who the heck am i asking permission from
and so somebody would declare now that
you will stop asking permission that you
will stop and you don’t ask permission
publicly you ask you by the way you
tiptoe around the people in your life
come on you guys you know I said I don’t
want to disrupt anybody come on how many
of us have done that I don’t want to
disrupt that so you walk into a room and
you take the temper if this is you just
say yes just wait top finish you walked
into a room and you take the temperature
of the room you have your dial on your
light and you take the temperature of
the room and based on what you think the
room can handle you turn your light down
come on you guys come on and if it’s a
room like this you go hey I could turn
my light up I gotta have an idea why
don’t you go to where the dial is why
don’t you break the damn down why don’t
you turn it all the way up to 189 watts
and why don’t you know that when you
walk in a room here 189 1 and if someone
in that room can’t handle your life you
don’t turn down your dial you hand them
an extra pair shave you just saying I’m
just saying what does it take for us to
walk like that because someone is
watching you and the way you do you is
going to be the example of the way they
get to do them I want to be a great
example of unapologetic humility
unapologetic service unapologetic love
I’m thinking we can change the world I
mean we can change the world dr. King
had a dream over 40 years ago that one
day little black girls and little white
boys and people all over the world could
play together
I think the dream is a reality now so
I’m just asking you what are you
dreaming because your dream is your
reality on its way to you
all I’m gonna ask you to do is do right
with the information you get by someone
else serve someone else serve someone
else so please stand up please stand up
so here’s what I know on my way to where
I am today and I’m still on my way
somewhere else right
I haven’t arrived anywhere is this a
journey but on my way to this spot there
are so many times that I had to walk
alone because no one else carried my
vision so hear me when I say if no one
else gets your vision at time some days
they do some days they don’t some days
my team is on point with me like we’ve
got you other days is life wrong wrong
wrong
like I’m scooby-doo wrong wrong like
they don’t hear that I feel like I’m
talking like Charlie Charlie Brown’s
parents wrong won’t won’t won’t long and
I go okay way out on two dancer day I
got to hold my vision if no one else
gets your vision at times hear me when I
say it’s because your vision was only
given to you and that is your job to
birth it it’s your job to feed it it’s
your job to come to places like every
coach fine tribes like this and give
your dream what it needs so that you
could become the mid husband the midwife
to your dream and then we get to see it
but that’s your responsibility and your
opportunity so put your hand over your
heart and just hold yourself for a
moment
repeat after me I woke up this morning
whole and complete I am enough
I’ve always been enough I will always be
enough I am a divine contribution to
this planet even even and all of my
imperfections every every everything in
my life is fuel take a deep breath
repeat after me
I am ready I am ready I woke up this
morning ready
I will stay ready I will remain ready
when opportunity is here I will show
that I’m ready I’m ready for good love
I’m ready for abundance I’m ready for
prosperity I can handle it
now now I can handle it I’m ready take a
deep breath and exhale repeat after me
today is the first day of the rest of my
life today is the first day of the best
part of my life I choose to no longer
ask permission get ready because from
this day forward I’m giving notice take
a deep breath just sit this family
holding on to those words those are not
my words those are your words
they say the power of the word when it
falls off the tongue into the universe
it becomes so it becomes so it’s no
longer a thought it’s so you’ll have to
work harder to make it not be so because
the universe heard you and it listens to
you
you made a command and it said yes take
a deep breath
put your hands down to your side turn
your palms up
repeat after me on the days when I get
in my way I choose to have grace and
compassion for myself I choose to
forgive myself the same way I forgive
others to extend compassion to myself
the same way that I do other I choose to
show the world how to treat me by the
way I treat myself take a deep breath
open your eyes you’re holding the space
for people to have breakthroughs you’ve
chosen to do that the best gift that you
can give us them and that you give
yourself the greatest breakthrough ever
so the degree of your breakthrough will
be to the degree that you manage and
direct someone else’s when you’re
willing to be unrecognizable then you’ve
opened the doorway to make someone
else’s life unrecognizable
you can never take another person
further than you’re willing to take
yourself so I’m saying don’t play in the
stars play way past stars because then
everyone that you touch will benefit
from the fact that you were willing to
risk it all to plan to gain at all it’s
my honor to serve you it’s my honor to
stand beside you as your sister friend
in the journey it’s my honor to come
here and touch you to love you to
inspire you to encourage you but most of
all to really really see you oh there’s
more than enough space for us all to
have abundance and then there’s still a
lot left over still a lot
so every time I see you at mine value or
elsewhere I’m going to say welcome home
I love you my unicorn bye-bye
[Applause]
