OWN YOUR MIND – Best Motivational Video
sometimes we have to ask ourselves
what’s using my life kurtik I give a
lecture one time that says we are today
what we were win and he’s talking about
the fact that we to a great extent
behave think react because of some
previous experience that we’ve had one
of the things that we know about life is
that it is always changing sometimes
you’re up sometimes you’re down
sometimes things go real well and
sometimes they don’t sometimes you’re
happy and sometimes you said now that’s
that thing called
life and when we begin to understand and
know that accepting that reality that
that we will never ever have things just
on an even keel all the time but you’re
gonna have some ups and you’re gonna
have some downs but during those down
moments that’s where the growth takes
place that’s where the work is anybody
can feel good when they have their
health their bills are paid they have
happy relationships the children are
acting normal business is successful
anybody could be positive then anybody
can have a larger vision then anybody
can have faith under those kinds of
circumstances see what the real
challenge the real challenge of growth
mentally emotionally and spiritually
comes when you get knocked down
somebody said that that adversity
introduces a man to himself or woman how
you handle it
that’s where the growth takes place when
I was facing some challenges I had a guy
say something to me and I suggest this
is one of the first things that you want
to do when you’re facing a challenge you
want to get unstuck evaluate where you
are look at it assess yourself assess
yourself and assess the situation what
brought you there what role did you play
the role Nightingale had a saying I
liked he said all of us are self-made
but only the successful will admit it
what has brought you to this point what
did you learn from it
are you learning anything are you doing
it over and over and over again somebody
said that insanity is doing the same
thing in the same way expecting a
different outcome
are you going through it are you growing
through it are you bigger and better
because of it because it’s not going to
leave you until you grow through it I
was going through a major challenge in
my life that was wearing me out that was
using me and one of my students told me
in a class that I was teaching lessons
in truth she said less until you handle
it with grace it will stay in your face
the challenges of life how do we get it
how do we get stuck a friend of mine
went through a divorce my best friend he
had a wife that did not love him as much
as he loved her it was this first real
true love he was a very religious man
did not believe in divorce he made a
mistake
and he paid for his mistake with a lot
of pain a lot of tears and they came to
a point where he knew he should have got
a divorce
but he was stuck he was stuck in
something called revenge he said she’s
made me so miserable I’m gonna pay her
back he was stuck and he stayed in that
longer than he should have because it
began to us attack him it began to
affect him psychologically and as a
result of that would eventually did get
a divorce he took that same attitude to
other relationships looking for
something to go wrong he was burned so
badly he did not want to risk pain again
he was going in relationships trying to
avoid pain when it became too close he
would do something to make sure the
relationship did not work he would
always try and find something wrong with
the person because they’re no perfect
people so if you look for it you can
find it he was stuck in revenge another
friend of mine working on a job loved
the company very much expected to retire
there and one day they call him in the
office ask him for his badge and
identification call the security man I’m
walked into his desk told him he was
fired and he had to leave then he was
devastated and if you came anywhere near
him he will tell you his story as we all
have stories even when he got a job he
went on the job telling anybody who
would listen how they fired him unjustly
it
we ended with it wasn’t fair life isn’t
fair life just is it’s not fair that
birds eat worms and they do so we can’t
even deal with what’s fair but he’s
stuck in the fact that it’s not fair I
don’t deserve that they were wrong I
used to be a state legislator in
Columbus Ohio during the break we used
to go out on the front lawn of the Ohio
legislature and the Capitol there and
observe people as they came by there was
one particular person that all of us
knew the children adults everybody used
to pick at him when he came by we called
him chicken man
he had a feather in his hat he had a toy
chicken on top of his car that he would
drive around the area in downtown
blinking his lights and occasionally
blowing his horn when he got out of his
car he would dry he would walk down town
with a baby carriage with two little
baby dolls in there and a picture of a
woman and when you say something to him
or came near him you would hear him
making the sounds of a chicken all of us
used to laugh at chicken man we didn’t
know chicken man’s story chicken man
woke up one morning around 3:00 a.m. and
his house was on fire
keep panic and he got out of the window
left quickly only to get outside to hear
his children and his wife screaming for
help he ran back to the door to go in to
save them and the flames were too hot
too awesome he tried to get in he
couldn’t get in he was desperate frantic
pretty soon the cries stopped they
perish in the fire
his brother-in-law came found out that
his sister died and his niece is in the
fire grab chicken man and start beating
him you chicken why did you save my
sister your chicken your chicken when
the people pulled it off chicken man
they picked him up and said are you
alright
and chicken man looked at him and he
started making the sounds of a chicken
he never ever overcame that tragedy he
will stop from that experience none of
us knew what chicken man went wrong with
his picture and these little dolls I
remember when I was stuck in anger for a
long time when I made a commitment to my
adopted mother that I was going to
purchase her a home I’ll never forget
the experience of working real hard to
get the money for the down payment
someone had told me of a beautiful home
and exclusive area of Miami went to see
it took my mother there and she said yes
I want it because on the water we went
to the closing my attorney said less
have you had a title search
I said what’s the title search well you
just take a couple of days to check it
out and make sure there are no liens
against the property that you might have
to pay if you buy this home the guy who
was there selling me the house he said
listen he said the only reason that I’m
selling you this house and selling it at
a loss is because I admire the fact that
you want to purchase this house for your
mother I have another guy who will give
me substantially more money but I like
you and I’ve got to get back to
Philadelphia now if we cannot consummate
this deal now then the deal is off I
said there are no liens against the
property is this no of course not I
looked at my attorney I said I believe
him outside she said Mr Bryan I’m not
questioning his honesty she said but
business is business I signed that
contract and we had a big celebration
everybody in the neighborhood was
talking about Leslie coming home one of
the twins that Mamie adopted to buy her
home Charl isn’t that nice God is going
to bless him
a few weeks later I received a letter a
registered letter indicating that the
house was going up for sheriff sale on
the courthouse steps a man had filed a
$12,000 lien against the property
because the previous owner old him that
money and if I did not come up with
$12,000 in 30 days he was going to sell
the house to the highest bidder
I called this man and said mister my
name is les Ron I purchased this house I
had nothing to do with your probability
he said that’s not my problem
he said you should have had a title
search I said can you give me time I
said my mother is an older lady she has
a bad heart and she I said please that’s
a him you just give me the time I don’t
know how I’m gonna do it with the house
note and everything else but I think I
can pay you at least $2,000 a month and
within six months somehow I will pay
your money he said no I wanted all in 30
days or you get out
I did everything I could rack my mind
thinking about how I could get twelve
thousand dollars because I took
everything I could to get the money just
for the down payment and the closing I
finally had to face the reality that I
wasn’t going to be able to do it I was
up around two o’clock in the morning
walking back and forth thinking how was
I going to tell my mother this my
children were there in the room sleeping
all night long I a ganache Dover this I
lost over 23 pounds pretty soon I went
in the room where my mother was sleeping
and I said mama I got down on my knees
by the bed I said mama I got to talk to
you and she said what’s wrong I said
mama I said we got to get out the house
I said in my haste to buy the house I
made a mistake
she said that’s all right baby I didn’t
like this our city huh
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I said mama you told me you loved it I
brought our friends out here to sit she
said you know I have arthritis in my
knees and I don’t like going up the
steps but I knew it made you happy you
loved it so much I said mom I’ve lost 23
pounds in izing over this well we had to
pack up and go back to the old house
down the street from Northwestern High
School in Liberty City all those
neighbors who came out and saw us leave
those neighbors were there as we were
coming back we went in the house the
roaches were playing cards saying come
on in and take a hand
I was wiped out I was embarrassed and
humiliated words cannot encompass the
symbolism of what I felt I remember when
I was unloading the furniture now I
began to cry my sister came by hmm you
know you didn’t have any money to buy no
house mr. big-time
hadn’t given me a quarter you know mama
got a bad heart now y’all back where you
belong
as I was crying my head down taking
furniture and my momma said hold your
head up I said my muscle I said I just
feel so bad about this mama she said
hold your head up and dry your tears you
have nothing to be shame up and I did as
we unloaded that furniture in that house
for several weeks I was numb
I was immobilized with anger if I had
seen that guy I was thinking about
flying to Philadelphia I had all kind of
dreams about him and I don’t want to hit
this guy here hitting would been too
good for him I just want to just grab
him and just bite him just chewing on it
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beating would have been too good for him
I’d have been like a Doberman Pinscher
God wouldn’t say I thought I made
everything but I don’t know where this
came from I was reading the book on
forgiveness and they had a lot of that
says forgive and grow I had to let that
luggage go you see your mind is you know
when you’re going to a service station
to get gas you don’t go in there and
just stop pumping when you push the
lever up it clears the previous bill by
the same token if you want to begin to
move you’ve got to clear your mind of
all the unnecessary luggage and baggage
that’s weighing us down I couldn’t move
I couldn’t fit about what am I going to
do to get out of this situation because
I was so concerned about what happened
and what he did to me and how bad it was
I was so stuck in that I couldn’t even
focus on what I should have done feeling
sorry for myself and angry and none of
that was taking me anywhere so pretty
soon I I learned through effort made a
conscious deliberate determined effort I
had to let it go I had to forgive it let
it go and begin to focus on developing
myself and I say to you you’re gonna
have people to do things to you things
are going to happen to you and the most
important thing to do is to harness your
will and let it go and move so you can
grow so you can get on with your life
you must work on yourself continuously
never be satisfied with yourself always
know that as you invest the effort and
time on you that’s the greatest ability
that human beings have above animals see
a dog can’t be anything but a dog tree
can’t be anything but a tree human being
you’ve got unlimited potential
you can put effort on you and by
concentrating on you and developing you
you can transform your life wherever you
are right now
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and as you continue to work on yourself
you will begin to expand your vision of
yourself you’ll begin to work towards
self mastery and you will begin to see
it reflect itself in all the dimensions
of your life your mental life your
physical life your social life in your
relationships your monetary life so
concentrate on developing yourself the
next thing is develop a health plan so
you can’t feel well and do well if you
don’t have good health you can’t perform
if you don’t have your health
you’ll help this valuable develop a
health plan a plan that you will follow
because this is the only vehicle that
you have to carry you through this
experience call life and you want to
take good care of it because you love
you enough you care enough about you and
that’s not easy it is not easy having a
health plan and sticking to it
you want to live life with energy and
passion you want to make a conscious
effort to be Lively you want to be happy
you got a lot to be thankful for so
you’ve got to learn to stand up to
yourself inside yourself and
short-circuit override that conversation
that’s always going on 85% of what that
conversation will tell you is negative
it’s negative it will tell you you’re
tied when you really are not tired it
will tell you you can’t do it it will
fill you in fear so you’ve got to watch
that conversation and when you find it
going on you’ve got to stand up to it
and say I’m going to do this anyhow I’m
afraid but I’m afraid not to do it and
I’m not going to let you stop me the
biggest challenge that you will have in
life is you there’s an old African
proverb that says is this no enemy
within the enemy outside can do us no
harm
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what do you want what gives you your
life but how will you know when you got
what will make you happy
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you need to know you need to start
asking yourself some questions what do I
really really truly want you need to be
exact about that don’t be feyo I just
want to be happy that’s too vague what
will make you happy how will you know
when you got it in what you’ve done with
your life thus far is it giving you what
you want is it giving you what you want
when you look toward the future when you
look at all this going on out here is
there some place within yourself you say
hey I know I need to be out there in
that arena I know I can do more than
what I’ve been doing I know there’s some
great music that I have within me that I
haven’t brought out here is that
something that you begin to look at
within yourself so I used to do that and
I used to go to big rallies and see guys
up speaking when I wasn’t courageous
enough to go out there and say hey my
name is les rotten the motivator made me
Brown’s boy I want to talk I would never
do that I just was I just be back there
looking at if it wanted to get their
autograph it would say can I can I meet
you mr. Lister Wiggly or
miss can I meet mr. Zig Ziglar please
tell him who are you let’s Brown because
I felt within myself I wasn’t no – they
want me to go talk to these guys and go
get their autographs I’d like to do what
you do
see I say if you look at your life and
if you’re not getting what you want you
owe it to yourself to do something
differently you are if you want a job
eighty-five percent they say of
Americans go to jobs but they’re unhappy
if you’re doing something eight hours a
day that you don’t like it’s not giving
you what you want it’s not giving you a
strong feeling of satisfaction and
fulfillment you’re miserable you hate to
go there you’re depressed just thinking
about it
you’re saying they thank God it’s Friday
song every week it’s giving you
headaches just thinking about your own
Sunday afternoon after the football game
goes off if that’s what it is you owe it
to yourself to start strategically
working to change directions see but you
know what most people will do most
people will resist change
most people will fight change as if
change would be worse than what they’re
experiencing see they know this they’re
familiar with this most people will not
challenge the unknown they won’t just
step out there see this well see there
certain things has got to be in place
they got to see it all together and like
this and like that that’s not how you
grow so as you look at your life you say
I’m not getting what I want
as you begin to look toward the future
begin to know that whatever it takes for
you to create that you’ve got that in
you you got that you’ve got genius in
you you’ve got goodness in you you’ve
got creativeness in you if you decide to
take the initiative to change the
current quality of your life I say to
you that you will find that the universe
is on your side then life is on your
side now will it be turbulent yes would
it be easy no no well you have some
opposition yes will I make a lot of
mistakes yes will I get hurt yes yes see
a lot of people won’t try anything
different in life because they don’t
want to get hurt let me tell you
something it’s too much pain to doc pain
is everywhere you can hide under here it
will come where you are
I’m really if I go but I keep paying to
come hey les come on out it will come
it’s everywhere
Viktor Frankl caused an unavoidable
suffering you can’t duck it but most
people spend their life not wanting to
deal with the pain of rejection the pain
of defeat the pain of being disappointed
the pain of losing the pain of failure
the pain of being criticized the pain of
not being liked the pain the pain the
pain that’s called life life is full of
pain it’s everywhere but guess what
there’s no gain without pain now if
you’re gonna hurt any harm
get some yardage out of it
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because it’s the pain of regret that you
experience if I had it to do over again
that’s a pain don’t you know that’s it
when you know I was in a seminar once
and this lady’s stood up if I had my
life to live over again she talked about
all of the things that she would do and
you can feel the pain of regret in her
voice the pain of regret
she still experience pain she was trying
not to experience the pain of defeat the
pain of disappointment the pain of loss
the pain of lack of support and she
still experienced pain it was right
there
we can’t get around it
most people are governed by their habits
the fears and the opinions of others a
lot of people never try anything
differently because they have been
convinced by people in their lives that
they value that they can’t do it
they’re living within the context of the
opinions that other people have avail
the low expectations many people doubt
themselves because when they thought
about doing something at some critical
point in their lives somebody they
respected and honored somebody they
believed in somebody that they loved
someone they trusted said you can’t do
that
and they accepted that that’s why I
didn’t go off to college I had an
instructor that I believed who said
you’re not college material mr. Brown
you’re not as smart as your brother
Wesley or your sister Margret Ann you’re
not college material why don’t you try
and get you a job at the post office
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try and do something with your hand I’ll
go down to the Miami city sanitation
department if he can you get a job there
I wanted to try and go into the army I
took that test mr. Tillis already what
happened I fail I told you anybody
failed army test you’re really in
trouble so I went down to the Sanitation
Department to try and get a job because
that’s what I believed was possible for
me as you look at your life ask yourself
the question what would your life be
like what would your life look like if
you decided not to care what people
thought of you what would your life be
like if you decided to give up some of
your fears what would your life be like
if you decided to become courageous what
would you like be like if you decided to
act on your dream if you did what you
felt in your heart you know what
courageous means a Tom Ruskin and Randy
Reed said they said that courage comes
from a French word which means of the
heart that how does it feel to you
he says such courage you know it takes
courage to live since most people go
through life not allowing themselves to
step out because they don’t want to let
go they don’t want to be blown around
they don’t want to be moved the courage
to face life’s whirling wind of
contradictions the courage to love
yourself the courage to love for years I
was afraid to love the courage to take a
chance the courage to be who you are
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he says courage isn’t for somebody else
for metals applause immoral debts
courage is what at that moment feels
most right for you not just situational
ethics but what feels right in your
heart the word of the heart what feels
right in your heart
one great philosopher says cowards die
many times before their deaths
the valiant never taste of death but
once what does that mean the valiant
people aren’t afraid no no no it means
that they experience that fear and they
move forward they move forward any how
many people are dead now many people
allowing their dreams to die many people
applying the ideas to lie dormant and
collect dust
many people have all this talent and
ability that they align to be invariant
side of them that they will take with
them to their graves because they didn’t
have the courage to be who they are
and I say as you begin to look to all
the future and manifesting your
braveness it’s going to take everything
in you
everything in you that your life
deserves the concentrated effort to
begin to look at how is it that I can
express more of me how is it that I can
bring my ideas out here now how is it
and start living with a sense of urgency
because you’re here today you’re gone
today life is unpredictable it’s
uncertain there’s no guarantees no
guarantees out here at all so holding
back what are you waiting on ask
yourself what’s the benefit of your
waiting what’s the benefit of your not
living your dream what’s the benefit of
not listening to yourself
oh please listen to yourself you know
the feelings that you started listening
to the feelings in your heart and I’m
doing it nam lore every day I find that
my feelings I can trust them and I say
to you that as you look toward the
future you looked at life on a daily
basis if there’s something that you have
been given if you’ve heard something
within yourself that you know that that
what you’re doing now it doesn’t fit for
you it doesn’t work for you it’s not
giving you what you want and there’s
something else that you want to do don’t
allow that inner doubt in you to talk
you out of it to build a case on why you
can’t have it to tell you why you’re not
good enough you ignore that in a voice
and all of the external voices don’t
judge the possibilities for what you can
do based upon the circumstances because
the circumstances won’t determine who
you are don’t determine what you’re able
to do based upon your resources don’t
determine what’s possible for you based
upon where your life is right now where
your life is right now is not you that’s
just what it is right now but the
possibilities for you are unlimited if
you’re in a rebuilding process it’s
unlimited if you’re coming back from
adversity and devastation it’s unlimited
of what you can do
that’s the capacity of human beings it
doesn’t matter how many mistakes you’ve
made doesn’t matter how many flops
you’ve had doesn’t matter how much money
you’ve lost in fact I see it only as an
investment what you learn from life
but investments of what’s possible for
you and I say to you that once you start
listening to yourself and as you began
to act on your dream as you start just
trying to find your way doing what you
can what you have you will start seeing
things opening up for you start
attracting people you say where’d it
come from things will start coming
together clicking for you say whoa you
start brainstorming ideas will come out
of nowhere as you focus on it the key to
it is to begin to focus on what it is
you want to do why less why is that
important because as you focus on that
which you want to do that which we focus
on that which we give our energy to it
will begin to multiply it will begin to
expand it will begin to develop your
consciousness and out of that comes your
greatness out of that comes a commitment
out of that comes a passion for life out
of that comes a special power that you
have in you that you haven’t even called
on yet see the powers that we have will
never reveal themselves if we don’t
challenge them if we don’t put ourselves
in a position where we have to use them
so one of the most important things
that’s reading a book that’s a really
interesting book called instant
millionaire and the guy said put
yourself in a position where you can’t
retreat where it’s do-or-die
sink or swim here’s what you’ll find out
you’ll develop incredible swimming
skills
or swallow half the pool of life you
find yourself stroking unlike you’ve
ever seen before through the inspiration
of desperation you become more creative
than ever before so what is it how do we
handle that whole piece throw your whole
self into it see most people go at it
tentatively they don’t give all their
stuff they don’t concentrate they don’t
put everything they’ve got in them one
guy wrote a book called all you can do
is all you can do and all you can do is
enough but he said make sure you do all
you can do and if we honest this evening
we know that we haven’t done all we can
do so as we look at the future we can
decide that from this day forward as I
look at my personal relationships if I
look at my professional relationships if
I look at my family relationships as I
look at all the dimensions of my life
looking at myself mentally emotionally
and spiritually I’m going to do all I
can do to develop me to bring my talent
out here to make a contribution to lie
