Matthew McConaughey | 5 Minutes for the NEXT 50 Years of Your LIFE
I’m gonna talk to you about some things that I’ve learned in my journey
Most from experience some of them I heard in passing
Many of them I’m still practicing, but all of them I do believe are true
Life is not easy. It is not. Don’t try to make it that way.
life’s not fair, it never was, it isn’t now and it won’t ever be.
Do not fall into the trap
the entitlement trap
a feeling like you’re a victim
You are not
get over it and get on with it
So the question that we gotta ask ourselves is what success is to us? what success is to you?
Is it more money? That’s fine? I got nothing against money
Maybe it’s a healthy family.
Maybe it’s a happy marriage. Maybe it’s to help others to be famous, to be spiritually sound
Leave the world a little bit better place than you found it
Continue to ask yourself that question
now your answer may change over time and that’s fine
but do yourself this favor
Whatever your answer is don’t choose anything that will jeopardize yourself
Prioritize who you are who you want to be
and don’t spend time with anything that antagonizes your character
Be brave take the hill, but first answer that question what’s my hill?
So first we have to define success for ourselves
And then we have to put in the work to maintain it
Make that daily tally
Tend to our garden.
keep the things that are important to us in good shape
Where you are not is as important as where you are
And it’s just as important where we are not as it is where we are
Look the first step that leads to our identity in life
Is usually not
I know who I am. I know who I am.
that’s not the first step. The first steps is usually I know who I am not.
Process of elimination
Defining ourselves by what we are not is the first step that leads us to really knowing who we are
You know that group of friends that you hang out with?
That really might not bring out the best in you?
You know, they they gossip too much, or they kind of shady.
They really aren’t gonna be there for you in a pinch
Or how about that bar that we keep going to, that we always seem to have the worst hangover from?
or that computer screen
right? the computer screen that keeps giving us an excuse not to get out of the house
And engage with the world and get some real human interaction
Or how about that food that would keep eating?
stuff that taste so good going down, but makes us feel like crap the next week
We feel lethargic we keep putting on weight
Well, those people, those places, those things.
Stop giving them your time and energy.
Just don’t go there. I mean put them down
And when you do this, when you do put them down, when you quit going there
When you quit giving them your time you inadvertently find yourself spending more time and in more places
That are healthy for you. that bring you more joy
Because you’ve just eliminated the whos, the wheres, the whats and the whens
that were keeping you from your identity
Trust me too many options.
I promise that too many options will make a tyrant of us all
So get rid of the excess
the wasted time
Decrease your options
If you do this you will have accidentally,
put in front of you, what is important
By process Elimination.
knowing who we are is hard
Give yourself a break
Eliminate who you are not first
And you’ll find yourself where you need to be
Instead of creating outcomes to take from us,
let’s create more outcomes that pay us back
Fill us up
Keep your fire lit, turn you on,
for the most amount of time in your future
We try our best we don’t always do our best
Is a verb as well
Since we are the architects of our own lives
Let’s study the habits, the practices, the routines that we have that lead to and feed our success
Our honest pain
Our earned tears
let’s dissect that, and give thanks for those things
and when we do that guess what happens?
we get better at them
And we have more to dissect
because you want it
do it because you want to
We’re gonna make mistakes
You’ve got to own them
Then you got to make amends
And then you got to move on
guilt and regret kills many a man before their time
So turn the page, get off the ride
You are the author of the book of your life