LOVE YOURSELF | Positive Morning Motivation (very motivational)
Oh
as ernest hemingway noted the world
breaks everyone and afterward many are
stronger in the broken places but my
question is why isn’t everyone to me it
comes down to the strategies that you
use there really isn’t anything
objectively good or bad there isn’t
anything that happens to you that can’t
be overcome there isn’t anything that
could happen to you anything that when
you turn inward you can’t find a reason
to overcome you can’t find a way to put
those pieces back together and that
becomes your job it becomes literally up
to you whether you’re going to sit and
wallow and woe is me because what
happened happened and there’s no way to
take it back but how you respond what
you bring to that table whether you meet
fire with fire whether you meet that
adversity with falling apart becoming
weaker in the areas that broke or you
bind them and mend them and it becomes
like a weld that literally makes you
stronger is a choice and it’s a choice
only you get to make but as Stephen
Hawking said when you complain nobody
wants to help you there are many things
in your life do you have every reason to
complain about you have every reason to
be upset by the things that have
happened to you the most sinister thing
about excuses is they’re valid there’s a
million reasons why you should be able
to give up there’s a million reasons why
you shouldn’t need to try that thing
that broke you you should be allowed to
just sit on the ground and here’s the
thing that’s your right you have every
reason to do it and maybe people won’t
even think less of you
but here’s the truth why they become
weaker or stronger in the places that
broke and that’s a choice of how you
react moving forward the great news is
the best thing that you could do to
become stronger is love yourself and as
Kamal Ravi Kahn said loving yourself as
a practice people think that it’s
something that’s gonna feel right that
it’s gonna feel natural that you’re just
gonna turn inward and there it is the
spark of love and joy for yourself
inside yourself and the truth is that’s
just not the human experience that’s not
the way that it works there’s gonna be a
voice inside your head and it’s going to
blame you it’s gonna say that it’s your
fault and no matter how many times
people on the outside tell you that that
is not true that this thing happened to
you that it isn’t you it doesn’t define
you there will be a voice that’s going
to tell you that it does and that’s
where you have to fall back on process
that’s where you have to realize that
you literally have to practice loving
yourself and that it’s okay that no
matter what happened there is absolutely
nothing that invalidates that you’re
worthy of your own love but you’ve got
to practice it you’ve got to be willing
to do it you’ve got to be willing to put
in the reps you’ve got to know that it’s
not gonna feel right but you’ve got to
know on the other side of that is a
vision of your life where you actually
do love yourself because you took the
time to say it you took the time to
practice it you took the time to sit
there and feel stupid and say that you
love yourself and sometimes just putting
in the work is what you need to do to
get strong
so put in the work
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the fact that you’re still alive I’m
still on this earth even though it’s
been challenging and rough and sometimes
you get discouraged and uninspired to
keep going God has a plan you will grow
through what you go through everything
that you’re going through at some point
it makes no sense to you right now but
at some point God is gonna reveal to you
why all of these issues challenges and
problems continue to show up and what
you were supposed to learn from it you
will grow through what you go through
because you go to sleep at night doesn’t
mean you’re resting because you close
your eyes at night
and you are sleep physically doesn’t
mean that you’re actually resting and
the reason that you don’t rest is
because while you’re awake
everything in every body that’s in and
around your life is so full of issues
problems insecurities dysfunction
negativity your mind is in your spirit
is in turmoil there’s issues and
problems arguments yelling screaming
dysfunction all of this shit is going on
all day every day so when you go to
sleep at night you’re not resting
a lot of people would say I love myself
do you really love yourself
are the things that you’re doing and the
people that you’re hanging out with and
the places and the circles that you’re
traveling in does that reflect a person
that actually loves themself if you love
yourself why would you fuck with those
type of people you know what they’re
saying about you behind your back you
know they’re jealous and envious of who
you are and the things that you got
going on in your life in your career you
know that they don’t like you and they
made it clear they’ve sent you every
sign imaginable
that they could possibly send you and
because you’re so desperate to have
people around you and in your life you
continue to go back you continue to show
up to everything they invite you to
knowing what they’re saying about you
I’m not preaching separatism I want a
bunch of people to just be alone at home
doing nothing with no friends no family
and nothing to do I’m saying that at
this point you are old enough and mature
enough to understand the difference in
good people and bad people and when
you’re hanging out with negative dark
and dysfunctional people you cannot
expect yourself to go to sleep at night
and rest you cannot expect yourself to
feel good about your day when you’re
including negative and dysfunctional
people in your day so what you grew up
with so what their childhood friends
so what their family we have a
responsibility to walk in the direction
of peace I want to laugh I want to smile
I want to enjoy myself I actually want
to feel good about the people that are
around me you have that as a choice you
actually do you don’t wake up in the
morning and negativity dysfunction
problems and issues just randomly pop up
these are the people that you have
decided to include in your life so the
outcome of your day your hour your
minutes your week your month in your
year is always draining always
dysfunctional and always fucking crazy
because these are the type of people
you’ve decided to include in your day to
day life
I’m talking to somebody you don’t love
yourself
you can’t say that you love yourself
when you continue to invite and include
these people in your life you’re
threatened they’re insecure they have a
problem with you and you don’t even have
a problem with them they try and make
you feel bad about being so blessed they
laugh about it but they’re throwing
subliminal and very direct messages at
you
they’re jealous they’re in this and
secure they’re threatened by the idea
that you’re coming up your career and
your life is advancing people put God
put people in your life for a reason
others are there for a season it’s very
important that you recognize when
people’s seasons are over God put people
in your life for a reason other people
are there for a season is the season
over or have you decided because you’re
desperate because you just need
validation you need all of this shit and
people and things around you you’ve
decided to drag these random people into
the new season of your life you have a
boat and your boat is at its capacity
and in order for your boat to not sink
and go underwater and that could be your
career that could be your life that can
be here your personal life your
relationships is that relationship over
do you feel mentally spiritually and
emotionally stimulated in that
relationship are you just holding on to
it because you got this concept of
loyalty that you have over views
overused and over abused well I’ve
learned that loyalty has an expiration
date loyalty isn’t some open-ended thing
that just goes on forever because
technically some people just don’t
really make sense for your life and the
new season the mind and the space that
you’re in
I want you to stop playing the victim
you are not the victim you decided that
those are your friends
you decided that those are the people
that you want to spend time with you
decided this is what you wanted to do
what’s your day when you get invited to
places doesn’t mean you have to show up
especially if you know what your
experience is going to be like with
these people no one wants to be alone
but why spend the rest of your life
being miserable frustrated and insecure
not really feeling as good as you have a
responsibility to feel feeling good
isn’t just an opportunity feeling good
is a responsibility that we all have for
ourselves I don’t need a million people
around me if I don’t like you I don’t
fuck with you and guess what I actually
don’t care what you say about me we have
control of our minute our hour are they
our week or month in our year stop
running around being on the receiving
end of whatever people want to dump on
you you showed up you accept that invite
you invited these people to your house
you’re in a relationship with that man
you’re in a relationship with that woman
that’s you so how do you feel at the end
of your night it’s always gonna be based
on the people that you decided to
include in your day your week your month
your a year your minute your hour
you got 24 hours in a day when you go to
sleep at night how are you gonna feel
about your day all depends on who you
decide to include in your day stop
running around acting as if you don’t
have a choice you do have a choice you
do have a choice
you’re a dysfunctional motherfucker
so you love dysfunctional people you
love rumors you love issues you love
problems you love people calling you
with their problems you love it that’s
why at the end of every night you are
drained because you are submerged
yourself and dysfunctional things people
and situations stop playing the victim
stop running around acting as if you
have nothing to do with the people
things and situations in your life I
love you I’m tired of these grown-ass
men and grown-ass women running around
acting as if they don’t have a choice
you have a choice I’m a grown man
where are the most crazy insane thugs
gangsters Crips Bloods dysfunction where
can I find and seek trouble where is it
where is it there it is and you decide
to walk in that direction and what the
fuck do you expect the outcome to be
you’re hanging out with crazy people do
you expect the outcome of your day to be
regular and ok where is a heartbreak
where is someone that’s gonna make me
feel insecure make me feel bad about
myself where are they ah there they are
so let me walk in that direction I love
myself enough to say that I want to walk
in the direction of peace love spiritual
folks that are always evolving and
trying to better themselves seeking
wisdom and knowledge and how to take
better steps and better directions to do
better and want better for their career
their life they have talents those
people that you’re around is not going
to help further your career
you know that it’s been revealed to you
a long time ago but because you don’t
want to be alone you must rather hang
out with a bunch of people that ain’t
gonna do shit for you you have a choice
and the land of the blind the one-eyed
man is king and the land of the blind
you have people that have eyesight but
they choose to not use things that have
clearly been revealed to them and the
land of the blind the one-eyed man is
king most of the people out here are
blind they don’t see what’s right in
front of them so they choose to just
disown it and the land of the blind the
one-eyed man is king I want better for
you the question is do you want better
for yourself don’t claim to love
yourself and you’re waking up every day
and deciding to include these people
things and situations in your life that
that is not moving like a man or a woman
who truly loves themselves when you love
yourself you want better for yourself
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