DECIDE TO WIN – Motivational Video 2020
as Maya Angelou said if you don’t like
something change it if you can’t change
it change your attitude that’s some of
the best advice you’re ever going to
hear at the end of the day you should
always be trying to change the things
that you have the ability to change
there inevitably going to be things that
you can’t change but you’re never
helpless you’re never a victim in that
moment you still have the unbelievable
ability to choose to look at it in a new
way to choose to reframe it and in that
reframing you change everything you
don’t just change your own neural
chemistry you’re not just changing the
way that you feel you’re actually
changing the way that you’re going to
approach the problem something that was
moments before something that seemed
impossible something that was breaking
your will to continue to fight with a
change in attitude become something
completely different and as hans selye
said adopting the right attitude can
turn a negative stress into a positive
one and that game of mental jujitsu is
what it’s about that game of flipping
something on its head of turning
something around of seeing it in a new
way so that you can act in a new way
is how you make forward progress and
understanding that understanding the
need to take control of your perceptions
understanding that understanding your
need to change your perspective that’s
how you begin to get ahead once you
understand your perspective is a choice
it is not objective truth burn that into
your mind
it is not objective truth the world that
you see around you is simply the
perspective through which you see it all
of life is a funhouse mirror
and when you acknowledge that when you
understand that you’re looking at a
distorted view of the way the world is
you realize that you can adopt a
different Distortion you can adopt a
disorienting in a way that empower you
and that should always be the first step
is figuring out not what is not what you
can change but instead understanding
what you need to change it to an
understanding that that change comes
from inside you it isn’t a manifestation
that you have to make in the outside
world for us it’s a change you have to
make inside yourself it is a shift of
perspective it is simply stepping to the
side of what you’re used to and how you
use the seeing things and understanding
that in reframing things you take that
negative and turn it into something that
builds you up but you’ve got to choose
you’ve got to decide you’ve got to
believe that you can do it but once you
believe that you can see things in any
way that you need to to reach your goals
your life will change forever because
you’ll actually reach your goals
you
for forward
this is what I mean
Reggie Jackson struck out 26 hundred
times in his career the most in the
history of baseball but you don’t hear
about the strikeouts people remember the
homeruns fall forward
thomas edison kentuc did 1,000 failed
experiments did you know that I didn’t
know that because the 1,000 and first
was the light bulb
fall forward every failed experiment is
one step closer to success you’ve got to
take risks and I’m sure you’ve probably
heard that before
but I want to talk to you about why
that’s important first
you will fail at some point in your life
accepted you will lose you will
embarrass yourself you will suck at
something there’s no doubt about it in
the acting business you fail all the
time early on in my career I auditioned
for a part in a Broadway musical a
perfect role for me I thought I’m in the
wings I’m about to go on stage but the
guy in front of me he’s singing like
like like Pavarotti so I come out with
my little sheet music and it was just my
imagination by the temptations that’s
what I came up with so I hand it to the
the accompany and she looks at it and
what said me and excited the director
and it’s like
but the next part of the audition he
called me back the next part of the
audition is the acting part of the
audition
I’m like hey maybe I can’t sing but I
know
so they pair me with this guy and again
I didn’t know about musical theater and
musical theater is big so they could
reach everyone all the way in the back
of the stadium and I’m more from
realistic naturalistic kind of acting
where you you know you actually talk to
the person next to me
I didn’t get the job
but here’s the thing
I didn’t quit
I didn’t fall back
I walked out of there to prepare for the
next audition and the next audition and
the next
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and pray
but it didn’t matter because you know
what there’s an old saying
hang around the barbershop
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you will catch away
last year
to the plate offense
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won the Tony Award I didn’t have to sing
by the way but here’s the kicker
it was at the Court Theatre
it was at the same theater that I failed
that first audition 30 years prior
the point is every graduate here today
has the training and a talent to succeed
but do you have the guts to fail
if you don’t fail
you’re not even trying
I’ll say it again but you don’t fail
you’re not even trying
my wife told me this great expression to
get something you never had you have to
do something you never did les Browns a
motivational speaker you made an analogy
about it says imagine you’re on your
deathbed and standing around your
deathbed are the ghosts representing
your unfulfilled detention the ghosts of
the ideas you never acted on the ghosts
of the talents you didn’t use and
they’re standing around your bed angry
disappointed and upset they say we came
to you because you could have brought us
to life they say and now we have to go
to the grave together so I ask you today
how many ghosts are going to be around
your bed when your time comes
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I wanted to spell a myth for you it’s
the talent myth it’s the belief that
some people were just born with more
than others that some people are
naturally gifted in some aren’t and
that’s just the way the cookie crumbles
and whatever you’re gonna be is
essentially determined by how you
started that your DNA is exactly your
destiny I’m here to tell you right now
that’s it’s just not true it’s
not the truth of the way that humans are
designed as a species were the ultimate
adaptation machine but the very thing
that puts us at the top of the pyramid
is our ability to adapt it is the fact
that the brain is plastic that it
responds to change it responds to
stressors it responds to repetition and
repetition is a slave to obsession as
Conor McGregor said there’s no talent
here this is hard work this is an
obsession you could be anyone if you put
in the time that’s one of the greatest
athletes of our time telling you that
he’s not the result of genetics he’s not
the result of natural gifts he hasn’t
been bestowed something by God he has
shown up day after day in the most
mundane of conditions on the cold days
on the hot days he put in the work
because he was obsessed with what he
could become and that repetition that
you need to actually gain a skill
follows that obsession so hidden you
right now right now today you want to
start building that obsession you want
to look at it like an ember that can
become a raging fire but it needs your
time and attention it needs your time
and attention you’ve got to take that
interest you’ve got to take that spark
of desire and you’ve got a family flame
you’ve got to turn it into that
obsession and from that obsession if you
put in the work if you do the things day
in and day out the back-breaking work
pushing through the pain
fighting through feeling like an idiot
fighting through embarrassment getting
up brushing yourself off doing it again
practicing putting yourself at
somebody’s feet and asking what could I
have done better not look at the things
you’re doing well but look at the things
we’re doing wrong look at the things
you’re doing poorly staring at your
inadequacies with no loss of pride
because the only thing you value in
yourself is your willingness to do that
you’re willing is to work your ass off
and as Sylvester Stallone said I’m not
the richest smartest or most talented
person in the world but I succeed
because I keep going and going and going
and that’s the secret there’s nothing
more than that
the people that you see the win at the
highest level they were the ones that
didn’t give up
they’re the survivors and you’ve got to
ask yourself am i a survivor type am I
the type of person that continues to
push through when it gets hard when it
gets boring when I feel lost when I
don’t know what I’m doing when I have no
faith in myself even in that darkest
hour can I push forward can I accept
that the human body will respond to that
stress it will respond to that stimulus
but I have to show up and I have to do
the work and so that’s the beautiful
thing you’re not gonna separate yourself
based on your genetics you’re not gonna
separate yourself based on who your
parents were where you were born
you’re gonna separate yourself by
showing up and you don’t want to you’re
gonna separate yourself by pushing
forward when it hurts
you’re gonna separate yourself by always
moving forward even when the forward is
falling on your face so never lose sight
of that it’s the person that keeps going
that can’t be defeated
